How many lives are so many fates. But, nevertheless, everyone is looking for his one and only half. And it happens that people find their soul reflected in another person, despite a decent age difference. Most often, society condemns unequal marriage, talking about the discrepancy of interests, financial situation or commercialism. However, the number of such marriages is growing.
It is traditionally believed that a man should be older. And to some extent this is true. Moreover, a big difference in age is a relatively relative concept. In different countries, this is treated differently, and somewhere large is considered 10 years, and somewhere 30 is quite normal. It is difficult to judge how significant the age difference between a man and a woman affects the relationship in a marriage. But it is believed that this can have several positive aspects that contribute to a long and happy marriage.
Firstly, a man’s life experience is most useful for creating a future family. After all, a man is considered to be a logical creation, and a woman is considered emotional. As a result, when resolving some extraordinary situations, they very often say: “Oh, how good it was that my husband was cold-blooded and figured out everything.” It cannot be argued that this is 100% true, but in most cases it is.
Secondly, due to the fact that a man is older, as a rule, he has already established his life, has formed as a person and is more emotionally stable, which is especially important for creating a strong family. In this case, an unequal marriage is practically insured against family storms and thunderstorms.
Psychologists have calculated that the most optimal age difference is when a man is older than a woman for up to eight years, because girls in their psychological development are five years ahead of boys. This applies mainly to fairly young couples under the age of 30 years.
Society is most critical of marriages when a man is more than 20 years older than a woman. Such marriages are considered unsustainable. Most often, they are a marriage of convenience, especially when the age difference is too large. People are sure that sooner or later the wife will begin to cheat on her husband, and the issue of procreation can be very acute. Moreover, many couples live in such marriages very happily, finding for themselves their own formula of love.
Marriages when a woman is older than a man are most controversial. The attitude towards them is most often sharply negative, even when a woman is only 2-3 years older. And what can we say when this difference is 15-20 years.
But this unequal marriage has its advantages. A woman enters into such a marriage for various reasons, but in any case, in an effort to save the marriage, she begins to pay more attention to herself, and just gets younger in her eyes. From the height of their life experience, they make fewer mistakes that are characteristic of young couples. At the same time, men enter into such marriages only either by great love or by naked calculation. With any option, they also seek to preserve their marriage, which makes such unions, despite the opinion of others, quite stable.
Of great importance is the age difference between a man and a woman when they talk about the physiological and psychological component of marriage. To this it is necessary to be mentally prepared for both sides. Some unrestrained impulses of a young man can slightly unsettle a formed woman, and in the same way, too authoritarian behavior of a woman can slightly reduce the bar of self-esteem. In any case, going on an unequal marriage, you need to realize that this is first and foremost a decision of two. And if, contrary to public opinion, this step has been taken, then the couple should be sincere with each other and not forget about trust
According to statistics, a large difference in the age of marriage is not an obstacle to a happy union. But such unions require more attention, both on the part of the man and on the part of the woman. Only they themselves are able to maintain harmonious relations, which are the basis of any strong marriage.