Non-verbal communication is a way of interaction between two individuals without the help of words. It includes facial expressions, gestures and other methods of communication using body language. Thatās what they sometimes call "non-verbalist." Today we will consider one of the types of non-verbal communication - takesiku.
What is a taxis?
Takesika is the science of touch. This includes physical contact in the form of handshakes, hugs, kisses, etc. Everyone knows the basics of this science. The exception is only some of the nuances inherent in different cultures.
Takesika has one root with the word "tactile" (from lat. Tactilis - tangible). The term "taxis" (with emphasis on e ) is also used to refer to the field of psychology that studies the characteristics of touch.
Even in the womb, we become sensitive to touch. By the second month of pregnancy, the tactile analyzer begins to function in the fetus. Gentle touches to the pregnant belly tell the child that he is loved and expected. If the expectant mother constantly talks and strokes her stomach, he soon begins to ārespondā to her with jerks. Takesika is a touch science in psychology, but its foundations have been known to all of us from birth.
Takesika and culture
Studies of different cultures show how different our ideas about non-verbal communication are. In some countries (for example, Russian-speaking), touch is very common. In others, the habit of physical communication is completely absent.
So, Arabs, inhabitants of the Mediterranean, Southern Europe, Jews belong to the population with contact culture. But the North Americans, Asians and inhabitants of Northern Europe during communication almost do not resort to touch. Asians do set quite large distances during communication.
Moreover, sometimes the tendency to touch depends on the gender. For example, Italian men are much more likely to cuddle or pat each other on the shoulder than women.
The Germans and other Anglo-Saxon peoples are very restrained in touching.
Takesika as a science
Takesika is a type of non-verbal communication that is closely related to speech. For example, a person embraced by rage can shout insults and at the same time repel an opponent. But at the same time there are situations when the speech message contradicts tactile. For example, if a person talks about his sympathy for you, but frowns or wrinkles his nose.
But in most works devoted to the study of the intricacies of non-verbal communication, it is emphasized that taksika is designed to increase the emotionality of a speech text and strengthen its message. But at the same time, non-verbal communication can be considered as an independent system. After all, she has her own plan of content and interpretation. Some experts even argue that non-verbal communication is a more effective and easier way to communicate than speech.
The basic laws of taxis are known to each of us. We intuitively feel some nuances when communicating with other people, but we do not always interpret them correctly. Consider the main types of taxis.
Embrace
Hugs stimulate the release of the hormone oxytocin into the blood. It is also called the "hormone of love." It has a very positive effect on the psyche and has an anti-stress effect. Oxytocin plays an important role in the formation of maternal attachment and sexual desire.
The strength of a hug shows the depth of emotional attachment. Strong and warm hugs indicate strong attachment, and cold and restrained ones speak of its absence.
It is noteworthy that the stronger sex is more prone to hugging than the weak. Women resort to them only during strong emotional outbursts. There are many variations of hugs. Each of them has its own hidden, subconscious meaning.
For example, a man hugging a girl by the waist gives her a sense of support. The girl at the same time gets the opportunity to deviate and snuggle closer to him. If he wraps his arms around her, as if covering himself with himself, this indicates that he is able to protect her. But Iām used to decide for myself and for her. A hug crosswise testifies to equal relations. But if a gentleman pats you on the back during a hug, this indicates his frivolous attitude. Most likely, he treats you in a friendly manner.
A hug from behind indicates a manās serious intention to protect his beloved. So, he really feels a deep feeling.
Takesika also includes other methods of physical communication. Consider them below.
Handshake
It is used for greeting and farewell. Distinguish business, love, friendship and ritual handshakes.
This is a demonstration of the goodwill of both parties. Men use handshakes regularly, and in women it is usually common only in the business sphere. Shaking hands between a man and a woman is allowed. However, in Muslim countries, the latter is prohibited.
A firm handshake with an emotional exclamation indicates that the person is sincerely glad to see you. This is evidenced by the girth of the interlocutorās hands with two palms. This is a signal that the person is extremely honest and frank. But the āinanimate" hand says that they donāt want to contact you.
If the hand is turned palm down - a person seeks to dominate the interlocutor. Up - he is unconsciously ready for submission. This happens at the level of instinct.
An aggressive person gives a handshake with a straightened arm in his elbow - in this way he tries to keep his opponent at a distance. Shaking fingertips suggests the same thing, but in addition betrays self-doubt.
Kisses
Kisses are common among the closest people. Usually these are relatives, close friends, lovers. But each country has its own traditions. For example, in France, unfamiliar people at a meeting easily kiss each other on the cheeks or send kisses.
It should be noted that the kisses of lovers are very useful for the body. With them, all 38 muscles of the face are actively working, blood flow is increasing, oxygen is better supplied to every cell of our body. This is a very intimate type of kiss during which a woman can recognize her partnerās intentions.
A kiss with open eyes speaks of the uncertainty of a lover. This is evidenced by a violent, aggressive kiss.
However, there are other types of kisses. And each of them carries its own message:
- in the nose - tenderness and trust;
- in the wrist - the desire to gain control over the partner;
- in the neck - an attempt to excite;
- in the corner of your mouth - uncertainty that the partner will allow more;
- in the forehead - patronage (it is likely that the partner experiences paternal or maternal feelings).
Interesting fact! In America, there was a case when a man was given a life sentence for a kiss on the neck. The lady considered this a dirty harassment on his part. The crime was qualified as coercion to sex.
Other types of non-verbal communication
In addition to taxis, experts identify several other non-verbal means of communication:
- kinesika (gait, pose, facial expressions, gestures);
- proxemics (distance and orientation).
The main feature of ānon-verbalā is that it is difficult for us to control our body during communication. When talking, it itself gives out our feelings and emotions, even if we do not want it.
Gait and posture can say a lot about a person. However, the distance that he maintains during the conversation, too. Knowing the basics of kinesics can help characterize a person, identify the pros and cons in character. Takesika is accessible and understandable to each of us. Although she does not provide such complete information about the interlocutor.
A few examples that allow you to identify the sincerity of the interlocutor:
- āClosedā and āopenā poses show how the interlocutor is configured for communication and how much he trusts you.
- A ārunningā look reveals shame or a lie.
- Sweating palms and activity of the hands (tapping fingers on the table, tapping the ring, etc.) - anxiety and nervousness.
Conclusion
Takesika is not only a science, but also a form of non-verbal communication. In our country, touch is considered the norm and is used very often even in contact with unfamiliar people. Sometimes, communication does not even require voice messages - everything is clear without words. This indicates a high contact of the population.