Very often people, especially those who are responsible and conscientious, are spoiled by excessive guilt. In this article we will tell you about the main varieties of this feeling and how to get rid of it.
1. In most cases, a person feels guilty when he is angry with other people. It is especially amplified if negative thoughts spread to close and dear people (friends, children, parents, spouse). Very often this happens between children and parents. The reason for the emergence of this feeling lies in the belief that one person cannot be both loved and angry at the same time. In real life, such situations happen all the time. After all, the feeling of love is not opposed to anger, but indifference.
2. Often a person begins to feel guilty due to any negative emotions, for example due to jealousy, envy, anger. All these feelings can be experienced in one way or another by any
cultural person. But if they exceed a certain threshold, then problems can begin. Therefore, each person needs to know that there is nothing wrong with negative emotions as long as they are under control.
3. Indifference is also a common cause of guilt. In most cases, it occurs in love couples when one partner still loves the other, while the feelings of the other gradually cool. How in this case to get rid of guilt? First of all, you should understand that our emotions do not obey the rules. After all, we cannot force us to love, just as we cannot stop loving us. A person can consciously control only the manifestations of his emotions.
4. Sometimes a person begins to feel guilty for any act committed by him (treason, rudeness). You need to understand that your actions are not so bad. It is necessary to learn to be independent of public opinion.
5. A person may begin to experience an unpleasant feeling of guilt when he has failed anyway (he did not go to college, could not study for one five). As a rule, such people set very high levels of results for themselves. In the end, they fail and are tormented by guilt. In this case, a person needs to learn to enjoy not only the result of his work, but also from the process.
6. Kind people often find themselves in a psychological trap "I have not done everything to make him (her, him) well." Often, for this reason, feelings of guilt arise in close people. As soon as they see (or they think) that the loved one is suffering, they begin to feel guilty. The reason lies in the belief that the happiness and well-being of loved ones and other people depends entirely on us. It must be realized that one cannot take responsibility for the happiness of another person.
7. Some people begin to feel a constant sense of guilt because they do not live up to the expectations of others. In this case, you need to understand that a person lives and does something for his own sake, and not in order to constantly meet someone’s expectations.
Guilt, like any other negative emotion, is not dangerous until it exceeds a certain threshold. The one with the “normal” guilt is a responsible person with a sense of duty. But if it exceeds a certain level, a person begins to suffer from neurosis, depression, ceases to enjoy his work and life. Therefore, hypertrophied guilt must be eliminated.