“A friend is in need,” says the famous Russian proverb. But often in life it happens that a stranger helps in trouble, and one who calls himself a "friend" modestly stays aside, not even trying to do something. What to do in such cases? How to protect yourself from such, by and large, useless people?
For this, first of all, it is necessary to have a clear idea of what friends are and what the noble word “friendship” generally means. If you look into any of the explanatory dictionaries, you can come across the following meaning:
"Friendship is the relationship of two or more people based on mutual trust, affection and common interests."
This is not quite an accurate concept, except perhaps for identifying people who have to deal with in numerous social networks or in any clubs. It is not able to fully reveal all aspects of such a high relationship. In order to fully understand what friends are, you will have to take a deep look at life and look at the people who surround us as critically as possible.
Someone from the great people wrote that true friendship is not only something in common. True friendship is more than that, which implies not only mutual respect and affection, but also certain responsibilities towards each other, selflessness and a willingness to always and in any circumstances support.
In fact, only close friends do this. The rest, as was written above, prefer to stay away, expressing only a semblance of sympathy. Therefore, it is generally accepted that absolutely all new friends must undergo a kind of "test of strength" of the existing relationship. This is where a lot of strange situations arise , because if a "friend" in the event of a force majeure situation got off with only advice, and did not offer material (or other significant) help, should this mean that in fact such a person is not at all different ? Should I take his side and understand him, as real friends do, or should he be driven away from himself as soon as possible?
Hence the classification of new acquaintances into “just
friends”, “best (or close) friends” and the rest. But in this case, the answer to the question "what are friends" assumes a completely indecent character. It turns out that a friend is a person who will be able or not to provide any service in the event of unforeseen circumstances. It all sounds somehow low, albeit quite in the spirit of modernity - in the modern world you have to pay for everything ...
What are friends? Is it worth trusting every person who calls himself a friend? Does every person after that become him? In fact, all these questions have neither a clear answer, nor a clear interpretation. One cannot become a friend just like that, because such a desire arose. Friendship is a much more complex feeling that is akin to love, real, genuine. When I’m ready to forgive my beloved for everything that he does, whatever he says. When he wants to help for free, not expecting to receive something in return, and not just because he has to do it. Friendship is a peculiar manifestation of love. And love, as everyone knows, can be understood only when it is felt.