There is a unique date in family life - an iron wedding. Why unique? Because you do not often meet a married couple who celebrates 65 years of marriage. Husband and wife, who survived such an event and stayed together, truly deserve respect.
Why such a name
Why was such a name given to this anniversary? Let's think it over. Iron wedding - how many years? As many as 65 years of marriage. Therefore, there are two reasons to call the anniversary this way.
- In Russia, there is a saying in which it is advised to forge iron while it is still hot. People who lived together for 65 years, their character has long been "reforged" and "tempered." Spouses at this age in all overworked and adjusted to each other.
- Husband and wife celebrating 65 years of marriage can be proud of the persistence of their relationship. Such feelings can really only be compared with iron. They are reliable and durable, like this metal, which a person could master the very first. There is no doubt about the strength of iron, and no doubt can arise about such a long-term relationship. Over such a long period of life, they have been tested more than once. Such surprisingly long and strong marital relations can only be symbolized by iron.
Not so long ago, a similar anniversary was celebrated in the UK. Prince Philip and Queen Elizabeth II lived together for 65 years.
Hello, dear guests
Only in a very strong and friendly family can an iron wedding be celebrated. This is how many years have passed, how many generations have grown? Can you imagine Three or even four generations have changed over the years. By this time, even the children of faithful spouses are likely to soon celebrate the half-century anniversary of their wedding. And such an exemplary couple can have a lot of grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
Most often, in an intimate family circle, an iron wedding is celebrated. How many years has a married couple raised and raised their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren? Why would they now see strangers, if there are so many relatives around? There are several reasons why outsiders are not invited to this anniversary.
- Spouses are no longer young people. At this age, new acquaintances are usually not made. Therefore, it is easier and more comfortable for older people to communicate with their relatives.
- Unfortunately, in our country, not many can survive to such an advanced age. Therefore, close old acquaintances to this moment, the couple practically does not remain.
- Not so often all family members can gather at the table. But an excellent occasion would be an iron wedding. This is how many years people could not see each other before getting together? Very often this leads to the fact that topics are raised that concern the personal life of only family members, and outsiders do not need to hear this.
How to organize
There are holidays, the organization and financing of which should be carried out not by the heroes of the occasion, but by people close to them. These include the iron wedding. How old will your parents and grandparents be at the time of the anniversary? Can they do it all themselves? Therefore, we want to give some tips that may help you.
- It is customary to send invitations to an ordinary wedding . For this anniversary, of course, they do not need to be prepared. In order to notify all relatives of the upcoming celebration, it is enough to inform them of this by phone. We advise you to discuss in advance with everyone the time and place of the holiday, since if there are a large number of relatives, it is necessary to take into account their interests and opportunities. Be sure to assign responsibilities in advance so that everyone knows which part of the event he is responsible for.
- Do not forget to remind all relatives what an important date this is - an iron wedding. When some of them try to avoid participating in the celebration, they should be reminded that such an event is a huge rarity, and everyone's duty is to take part in it.
- It often happens that one of the family members lives very far away, often even in another country. They should be informed about the upcoming event at least a month in advance, so that they have the opportunity to plan their affairs and free up a few days.
- Given that the iron wedding is a rare holiday, it is worth doing without embarrassing situations. Try to discuss with all the invited guests the gifts that you plan to present to the spouses. Do not give the jubilees the same thing.
How to celebrate better
Such a holiday is best celebrated in the house where the heroes of the day live, or, if possible, go to the country cottage. Only in such conditions will people of advanced age feel comfortable. Do not get too carried away with the design of the room in which the celebration will be held. In fact, this holiday has a modest, purely family character.
Take the time to view family photo albums or videos that capture significant spouses' life events during the celebration. Do not overdo it with congratulations. If they are too far-fetched and magnificent - it will look unnatural. Remember - at this holiday there are only the most relatives and friends of you, which means that the festive atmosphere should be light and relaxed. You will greatly surprise your family if you demonstrate theatrical pathos and simulated reverence.
In addition, you should not invent exotic dishes for the festive table. Remember - you have a family holiday. Imagine that you just got together as a family for dinner. Proceeding from this, and think over the menu. No need to surprise anniversaries with unusual products, it is unlikely that older people will appreciate this. It is better to ask in advance what exactly the spouses prefer, and cook their favorite dishes.
What to gift
Now you know the answer to the question: “Iron wedding - how many years?” But what is customary to give anniversaries? Since iron is a symbol of this holiday, it means that presentations should be made of this metal.
You can give spouses an interesting figurine, candlestick or photo frame. In addition, any item that is useful to them in everyday life will be a useful gift. This can be a set of kitchen utensils, and an automatic washing machine, and a washing vacuum cleaner, and a microwave, and much more.
An interesting gift idea for an anniversary is a video. All family members can take it together , tell him about their life in it, add shots from their family life and tell about the most interesting incidents.
Afterword
In fact, on such a day, a gift is not the main thing. Older people primarily expect from their children and grandchildren attention, understanding and care. On this day, you need to try to return to them all the warmth and love that they have given you throughout their lives.
No one was given to know how many years a person will spend in this world, will be next to us. Try not to restrict communication with rare calls. Use any opportunity to please relatives, to be with them, to show them your love. The main thing that keeps a person in this world is the understanding that someone needs him.