Did you meet recently, and this event has changed your whole life? Now you can’t think of anything else but him?
Closing your eyes, you see his beautiful eyes and smile, you want him to be always there, and kiss, kiss him incessantly. Surely you already managed to try on his surname to your name, and also figured out what to call your future children. If a girl with similar behavior is asked what is wrong with her, she will say that she has fallen in love. But if you ask the question differently: “Do you love him?”, The answer will be yes. So how can one correctly name this state when one wants to sing, fly and think only about it?
Feeling in love or love? And is it even worth it to distinguish between these concepts, because they carry the same meaning. As it turned out, it’s worth it. It is about whether it is love or love, or maybe just passion and lust, how to recognize and distinguish them, we will discuss below.
What does psychology say?
Science itself and its followers are able to make the topic of a scientific dissertation from a simple definition and an event, make them think about things that, through the prism of a simple person's vision, seem extremely understandable. Relations between partners are their favorite topic. So according to their theory, love is fixing on one or one thing, looping on the subject of adoration. And it's not just about the new guy, but also about how girls can fall in love with new shoes, men - in cars, children - in toys. Indeed, in this case, the love of symptoms is exactly the same as in inter-sexual relations. You begin to think about the desired subject, to feel the unrealistic need for it, to notice it everywhere. A new car, a spinning coat or a fur coat with a handbag may even dream of.
Workaholics fall in love with their profession and devote to it not only work, but also all their free time.
Butterflies in the stomach
This phrase is most often heard from girls in love, guys usually say that they feel warm in the lower abdomen. But can this controversial moment be considered a sign of serious intentions? And what does this fact generally testify to: sympathy, falling in love or love, that very deep and sincere feeling about which novels and poems are written, songs are sung and films are made? In order not to be unfounded, you need to examine in more detail the love, symptoms indicating its arrival.
Main signs
Some people believe that this is an exalted feeling that not everyone is able to experience, while others are sure that falling in love is a disease with its symptoms that must be treated. So, what do winged patients most often complain about:
• loss of appetite;
• heart palpitations;
• throwing it in the heat, then in the cold, sweating;
• trembling in the knees;
• insomnia or restless sleep, which do not contribute to the development of fatigue;
• the desire to speak and think every second about the subject of his adoration;
• involuntary smile at the sight of a beloved object;
• the desire to sing, dance, write poems or paintings (who has what talents);
• mood of at least the day ahead depends on the behavior of the object;
• distraction and carelessness, as it is difficult to concentrate on something else.
In addition to everything, one can add that falling in love is when one likes appearance, a smile, a look, dimples on the cheeks, a timbre of a voice and a smell. This is the idolization of his idol, biased putting it on a pedestal.
What happens in the body when falling in love?
At first glance, love is somewhat like a nervous breakdown. Violent reaction to a phone or doorbell, to the sound of SMS messages, due to constant hope and expectation that this is from a loved one. Regardless of your desire, biochemical processes occur in the body. Life energy, strengths and flushes of inspiration come from the production of the hormone dopamine. And feelings such as anxiety and nervousness are provided to individuals in love thanks to a large amount of adrenaline.
Love or love?
These two feelings have a lot in common: the craving for a loved one, the desire to hug, hug, kiss, feel his warmth and breath. I want to think only about him, but at a meeting I can’t take my eyes off him. All these signs can indicate great love, and can only be in love. How to correctly determine whether it is love or love, how to understand your own and his feelings?
If you are more worried about what your partner is experiencing, then most likely you have love, but if the goal is to understand your feelings, then this is already the beginning of love.
How to determine the truth of intentions by phrases and deeds?
A guy in love, confessing his feelings, first of all, takes care not to get a refusal, and to say everything correctly and beautifully. If the guy loves, then during the explanation he will watch his chosen one and be glad that he became the reason for her pleasant excitement and smile.
If during a quarrel you continue to defend your views and interests, then this is far from love. In love there is a place for selfishness, in love not.
The whole difference is that when a person thinks more about himself, then this is love. If it is more pleasant to him to bring joy and pleasure, then this is already love.
Love does not endure haste, takes care of its partner, does things for his good. If you want to call, but you can’t call, but you’re calling, it means that you don’t care that you deliver dim comfort.
Love - humility and permissiveness?
Do not think that this is a blind adoration and fulfillment of all the whims of his beloved. In a serious love relationship there are demands, rights and obligations of each side. To prohibit drinking and smoking, not to allow overeating is not an infringement of the rights and freedoms of an independent person. This is health care.
Both love and love are an attraction to your partner, both spiritual and physical, but for what purpose?
This can be easily determined by reasoning a little with oneself. If you are determined to have fun, to fill your thirst and need for love, if you want to receive attention, gifts, then this is love. Symptoms and
signs of love lie somewhat deeper. They may even be immediately indistinguishable. Falling in love is a charm, but passing quickly. True love with concern for a partner, respect for him from year to year only grows stronger. This is a more serious feeling, less common. Love needs to be learned, it needs to be grown.
Fall in love with a random partner
No matter how strange it sounds, but this is a fairly common fact among women. At first glance, this seems vulgar and thoughtless, but everything has a scientific justification. During orgasm, the hormone oxytocin is produced in large quantities , evoking passion and love. This is a tricky mechanism, explained by the fact that a woman in every sexual partner is trying to discern the future husband and father of her children. If he is able to satisfy her, then he has good good health, therefore, he is a suitable candidate.
Regardless of which of the two feelings you have, you should not forget that all of the above classifications and definitions are conditional, that each situation is individual and only you know the whole truth and depth of your intentions. Any journey of thousands of kilometers begins with the first step. So love, as a rule, begins with falling in love. Do not forbid yourself to feel this feeling, do not reproach yourself for the consumer attitude. Perhaps now you need just that. But do not limit yourself only to "I want", "give, give, give." Develop a sense of care and protection of your loved one, and you will see how pleasant it is.