“Treason is very painful and offensive,” - these are the words that any woman who has experienced such a betrayal and blow to pride from her beloved man will say to you . It is not so important how it was possible to learn that the believer has very personal relationships on the side. The main questions are: "What now to do with this knowledge? And" Why do men make lovers? "
The main causes of male adultery
We agree immediately that we will analyze mainly situations in which one representative of the stronger sex prefers to have relationships with several women at once. Many ladies prefer, upon learning of treason, immediately blame the infidel for all
mortal sins, and elevate the injured party to the rank of saints. And this is a completely wrong assessment of the situation. After all, one of the main reasons why men have lovers is a problem in relations with a constant companion. It is not enough for a man to conquer once. Relationships need daily comprehensive work, it is necessary to maintain the partner’s attention to his own person, to remain interesting and desirable for him in any life situations. Remember that even a casual acquaintance with a girl can make a great impression on your faithful if the opponent understands him better, is interested in or gives something that the previous companion could not give. We must not forget about feelings: if a man has cooled down to his woman, he will change sooner or later for sure. In addition, he can always fall in love again or experience a strong passion.
Why do men make lovers when everything is good in the family?
The paradox of the situation is that it is not only groomed boring wives in dressing gowns and with curlers that cheat. Often the situation looks very different: the wife is beautiful, the common comfortable house, material wealth, interestingly organized joint leisure. And the
husband is cheating. The reason for this behavior is a thirst for new sensations, perhaps everything in the family is too perfect, and this makes it boring. The desire to go "left" can be imposed on a man and his unmarried friends. And this is not only about the weak-willed representatives of the stronger sex. It is possible that a fully self-confident man who, having heard stories about the exploits of his comrades, would like to recall his youth and make sure of his own abilities.
What to do after learning about treason?
The most important thing is to try to keep cool and understand why men make lovers. The best resolution of a love polygon will be when its top finds strength in itself and, having explained itself, remains with one of its women. In practice, this rarely happens. More often one of the women leaves, but not immediately. Do not look for the girl of your beloved and try to find out the relationship with her. If you want to keep your union, you should look for errors in your behavior and try to correct them. At the same time, do not forget to make it clear to the man that you will not tolerate his behavior in the future. Perhaps you should live separately for a while. According to statistics, the relationship in which a woman enters as a lover rarely turns out to be long-lasting and truly strong. In addition, the one whose man was "taken away" knows him well enough and, if desired, can try to remember how to win his heart. Of course, in the event that, having calmed down and having a rest from the partner, she will still wish to return everything back.