Christianity does not deny either love or sexual relations, but in the understanding of any person, even a weak believer, lust is a sin. Why? What is the difference between normal sexual relations and lust? We will try to figure this out further.
What does lust mean?
In order to more accurately understand the biblical view of sex, it is worthwhile to clearly understand exactly where the very fine line that separates the blessed relationship from the low, sinful.
Love between a man and a woman implies bright feelings towards the object of his interest. And the main components of these feelings are respect and the desire to do something pleasant for the partner, without demanding anything in return. Love does not accept selfishness, as it is deliberately aimed at sacrifice.
While lust is the desire to use a person for their own purposes, namely to satisfy low-lying passion, sexual needs, momentary desires. What kind of respectful and reverent attitude towards the partner can we talk about here?
A man following lust indulges his desires, not knowing how or simply rejecting any attempt to restrain them. Lust is selfish, and therefore destructive. She eats the soul, accustoming a person to the fact that all his desires must be fulfilled.
What distinguishes lust from normal sex drive?
Often lust is a consequence of sexual dissatisfaction and the inability, due to complexes or objective reasons, to realize one's sex drive. But sex drive alone is not lust.
This is a natural, genetically based psychological and physiological process that serves as a component of that very bright feeling, which we call love. No, of course, it is not the main or determining one in love, but without it, you would agree, it would not make sense.
Indeed, the love between a man and a woman is not only mutual respect and the desire to make the life of a loved one more beautiful, but also the desire to leave offspring. And without this, humanity would simply disappear from the face of the Earth.
So what is lust?
A lustful person constantly remembers sexual desire; it does not leave him. It constantly makes him want someone who does not really need him, and if needed, the same passion will drive him away in search of new pleasures, while at the same time trampling, humiliating the feelings bestowed by the partner. After all, lust is based only on sexual desire, which has discarded respect and holiness of feelings.
And in order to better understand lust, the significance of this state for the human soul can be conveyed by the following statement: torment from temptation is always insignificant compared to torment from the consequences of sin itself. After all, a person who is in the grip of the sin of lust, is not able to think soundly, is not able to control himself, and therefore he commits acts, which he himself will then be ashamed of.
By and large, lust can be attributed to lust for everything that does not belong to a particular person at the moment, and it is usually so great that it doesn’t matter to him how he will achieve his wish. So lust turns a man into his slave.
And to be absolutely precise, for this feeling the true pleasure is the very process of desire, which pushes to the increasingly insane actions of a person who has dissolved in the base impulses, and he gradually turns into a kind of drug addict, depending on his needs that do not know the measure.
When the sex drive takes on perverted forms
Normally, any person has an inborn sexual desire for a member of the opposite sex. But lust is a lust that can pervert it, turning it into a constant need for sex that does not recognize any conditions and barriers.
Allowing this to develop, a person gets stuck in the opportunity to receive momentary pleasures, gradually falling to perverted needs and sometimes not even understanding why he is so drawn to minors, old people, the dead, animals and other endless list that can interest the psychiatrist. But it all starts with indulging your desires!
How to get rid of lust?
Lust can defeat everyone, but not everyone makes it slaves. And if a person realizes that his desires ceased to be innocent, that he was possessed by base lust, it is important to be able to get rid of him. In order not to become a slave to lust, you should once and for all make a decision and adhere to it firmly. Even if you break, start again and again - and this eternal itch will leave you.
Try to distract yourself with an activity that will not give you time for base thoughts and aspirations. Indeed, in psychology it is not in vain that suppressed sexual desires are the strongest stimulus for the realization of a person in another type of activity.
It was in this state that the majority of discoveries in science were made, a huge number of masterpieces in art were created - so, maybe this force, suppressed and directed in a righteous direction, will raise you?
Test your feeling
Love and lust are states of the soul located on different sides of the border drawn by generally accepted concepts of spirituality, morality, and culture. And they contradict each other.
So ask yourself a question to check: your feeling is love or only lust. The main thing is to weigh whether you can give yourself to a partner. Are you ready to read it? Do you value him as a person? Or maybe he is just an object that should (pay attention - should) satisfy your desire for sexual intimacy?
And if you agree with the statement that God has given us sexual relations and the pleasant experiences associated with it, then using such a gift for the sake of lust is a dangerous deception, for which there is a lot of sin.