Many psychologists believe that the atmosphere in the family depends on the woman. Her behavior can both make a marriage happy and destroy it. But cases and characters are different, so it makes sense to consider in detail how to behave with a husband, depending on everyday situations and characteristics of the characters of the spouses.
Alcoholic
Alcoholism has long been not considered a bad habit. This is a disease and needs to be treated. Support and proper behavior of a woman contribute to a positive outcome of treatment. So how to behave with an alcoholic husband to save him?
- Understand that dependence on ethanol occurs at the chemical level and hidden bottles and threats are useless. Treatment with replacement therapy is needed.
- Try to create an atmosphere of freedom for her husband, not follow, not lead him. Often men take up the bottle, suffering from the oppression of their wife.
- Minimize any stress during treatment, do not scream, but do not look with pity, behave naturally.
- To assist her husband in new hobbies, but do not insist, if he does not want, do not insist. Switch his attention to something else: sports, fishing, car tuning.
- To become better, a good and beautiful wife is always a fear of losing such a treasure and an additional incentive to defeat addiction.
But the main thing is to understand whether there is at least the slightest desire for a person to recover. If it is not, then almost everything will be useless and, perhaps, it is better to leave such a person.
Tyrant
He constantly finds fault with his wife, it is important for him to keep her will under control. It would seem that the best advice is to avoid such men. But firstly, the bulk of tyrants manifests itself in all its glory after it binds a woman. And secondly, it could be the love of a lifetime, but in everything else a man is perfect, and it's never too late to leave. What is the best way to behave with a tyrant husband?
- Do not give cause for jealousy, jealousy is a catalyst for aggression.
- Do not enter into discussions, anyway, the last word will be his, but along the way it will heat up to white heat.
- Try not to depend on him financially, but not to flaunt it. And if the earnings are higher, then in no case do not mention this.
- In every possible way to increase his self-esteem, the roots of tyranny - it is in low self-esteem.
- To love and care for him sincerely, you need to understand that this is a consequence of neurosis and the person himself suffers from it. At heart, he also wants to live quietly and peacefully.
If you behave correctly with such a man, he will never cross the line and raise his hand. But do not confuse the tyrant and the sadist. If a person is sadistic, then he is sick. And he needs to be treated, but better to run away.
Types of husbands and wives
According to one theory, all men and women are divided into 8 types, each of which has its own pair - the opposite.
Women:
- Mother is caring, she needs to protect a man, she cares like a son.
- Amazon - she seeks to do everything herself, to resort to someone else's help she is ashamed, competes in everything with men.
- Daughter - she needs a defender, more experienced and clever than she, in his authoritative opinion.
- Passive - wants to depend on her husband both in material terms and in terms of decision-making. In return, he can give him complete submission, the absence of conflict.
Men:
- The father is a supporter of the classical way of life in the family, where the man contains a woman, and she obeys him in everything. Prefer women younger and less experienced.
- Alpha male, or real man. He prefers to be obediently obeyed in everything, without argument, then he is ready to conquer the mountains for the sake of such a woman. He will not let his wife do the hard work and earn more than he does.
- The son is looking for maternal care in a woman: delicious food, comfort, wise advice, care during illness.
- A knight is his trick in beautiful deeds and words, but behind them is often a reluctance to do something more serious. A very dangerous type of man for family life.
The best pairs are father and daughter, alpha male and passive, mother and son. But the Amazons and knights in family life often have a hard time, they need to work hard on themselves and realize their mistakes.
Infantile man
Therefore, you should not complain that the husband behaves like a child, perhaps psychologically he is a child. But in the nature of men - to dominate, even if it is a man-son, you can develop this by striving for special behavior. How to behave with her husband so that he ceases to be infantile?
- Gradually shift to him small family responsibilities (paying bills, forming a grocery basket), he might like it.
- Talk with his mother so that she does not contribute to his infantility.
- Make fewer decisions herself, wait for the last word from her husband.
- It is less to wonder whether he ate, whether it was cold to him. This is an adult, he is able to take care of himself.
- Do not criticize, appreciate the very fact of trying to do something.
Appearance
Often, because of the scruffy appearance of the wife, the husband leaves. How to behave in this case? Men love with their eyes and always appreciate the appearance of their spouse. Why do you need to preen out on the street, but for a loved one, you can look horrible?
It is always necessary to take care of oneself, but especially often housewives neglect this rule. What should be done if this is noticed?
- Throw out stretched T-shirts and old trainers from your home wardrobe so that there is no temptation to wear them.
- Get beautiful home suits, slippers, sexy underwear and pajamas.
- Keep an eye on your hair even at home. At least just wash them in a timely manner and comb them.
- Apply a small amount of makeup before the arrival of her husband. The so-called makeup without makeup, it is invisible to men, but at the same time the woman begins to look fresh and young.
How to behave after a husband’s betrayal
Why this happens is a completely separate conversation, but, unfortunately, this happens. It does not always come to divorce, as it is often more advisable to forgive and understand if the husband repents. But the wound and the question remain in the soul: how to behave after the husband’s betrayal?
- You need to behave as you did before, so that the incident is more likely to be erased from the memory of both.
- Stop contact with this woman, if necessary, then move.
- Once this happened, then try to make the experience. Analyze why this happened, how her husband’s lover behaves, what attracted him to her.
If a woman remains, then the man by default thinks that he is forgiven. And you really need to try to forgive, otherwise it will be hard. Sometimes you need the help of a psychologist to let go of such an insult.
What can not be done in any case
There are elements of the behavior of wives that can kill any love and cause hatred of a man. Here they are:
- Humiliation of a husband in the presence of strangers, especially his friends.
- Condemnation of his attempts to improve the quality of life.
- Mention of something in common, for example, a discussion of a joint vacation in the key of “I”, and not “we”.
- "Saw" him for what he does not.
- Make decisions without consulting her husband.
- Compare it with ex and husbands of friends.
How to behave with your husband: advice from a psychologist
Contrary to different opinions, a man marries not to be washed, but to have comfort, a warm atmosphere and feminine energy at home. A woman who understands the power of her energy learns true female happiness. Here are some tips from psychologists on how to behave with your husband:
- A man needs to talk directly about how a husband should behave, according to this particular woman. Hints often remain misunderstood.
- Everything that is said in a gentle, measured voice and with a smile will be initially perceived positively.
- Focus only on the pleasant. Praise for what he does, without reminding once again of what he does not.
- If there are complaints to her husband, they speak out exclusively in private. Never public humiliation will not affect him for educational purposes, only alienate and embitter.
- Support him in everything. Let his idea be obviously a failure, but you need to appreciate the very fact of the desire to get out of the couch and do something, albeit not the first time, but he will succeed.
You need to understand that a man is a person. And most often with their cockroaches, whose roots go back to childhood, and much can not be fixed. But the woman has the power to smooth out many sharp corners, motivate the man to do things and make sure that he is always drawn home.