Each of us probably heard the word “decency” many times. But hardly anyone seriously thought about its meaning. Let's talk about who such a decent person is, what qualities he should possess.
Who is this?
Psychologists say that a decent person is one who lives according to the laws of conscience, as well as according to principles established in society. He is honest, true to his word, which is why he always keeps promises, is reliable, sincere and tolerant of people. His friends and colleagues value him, as he will never betray them. It should be noted that a decent person will always act nobly in relation to other people, even completely unfamiliar to him. He simply cannot do otherwise.
If such an individual has to lie or commit an ugly deed, he is tormented by remorse. This person is always guided by this principle: "Do with others as you want to be treated with you." He also sincerely hopes that other people live according to this rule, and when he sees that his expectations do not coincide with reality, he is very upset and disappointed with others. However, it continues to act humanly.
A decent person is one who does good
We continue to consider this concept in other aspects. What does a decent person mean according to the norms of religion, in particular, according to Orthodoxy? This one who believes in God lives by God's commandments and never breaks them. However, an interesting question arises here as to whether an unbeliever can be decent. Of course, yes. A person can be an atheist, but always and in everything to do as his own conscience tells him, which for him is the supreme judge.
A little bit about the fair sex
There is such a thing as a decent girl. What do they usually mean by it? For a long time she was considered a person who honors the moral foundations of society, she has a young man to whom she is faithful, and such a girl begins sexual life after the wedding. She is kind to everyone, merciful and kindhearted. It must be said that times are changing. The twenty-first century made significant adjustments to various concepts and, of course, expanded the definition of decency. If we talk about a modern girl, then, first of all, she must be self-sufficient. Only she should choose with whom to build relationships, what they will be. In all situations, a girl who considers herself decent should have a sense of dignity. No one has canceled excellent manners, intelligence and honesty.
The origins
How is decency formed ? Is it an innate quality or do we still acquire it throughout life? A decent person is one who, from childhood, is taught to act according to moral standards. He is told about what is good and what is bad. His education is carefully involved. A little later, his ideals are formed by books, as well as worthy friends. However, the above factors will not play a role if in a little man from the very beginning there are no sprouts of kindness. Unfortunately, everyone knows cases when beautiful parents, who put their whole soul into raising children, grew up callous in heart and cruel children. Therefore, unambiguous conclusions cannot be drawn, as in any life issue.
Wolf in sheep's clothing
It also happens that he seems to be a good person, always speaks the right words, tries to be on good terms with everyone, dear, smiling, he gets the impression of being decent, but as soon as you start a business with him or ask about with something, he begins to reveal his true face. That is why you should not judge people by words, you need to evaluate by actions. A decent person is one who in any situation will act with dignity.
Distinctive features
How to recognize a decent person? Actually pretty hard, however you can try:
- If he promised to do something, he will try his best to fulfill it, and if he knows that he cannot, he will not promise.
- Such a person never flatters, he is straightforward and sincere in communication.
- He always holds with dignity, but evaluates himself and others adequately.
- You can never blame him for lying, as he tries not to lie.
- At work, he fulfills his duties in good faith, never betrays his colleagues to his superiors and tries to help them in any difficult situation.
- He honors older people and always takes care of children, even strangers.
Perfect portrait, agree? But what if such a person stumbled and committed some unpleasant act? Everything happens in life, no one is safe from falls, because sometimes everything depends not only on ourselves. That is why it is necessary to learn to understand the motives of people's actions and forgive their little mistakes.
About times, about morals ...
Often you can hear the opinion that now times have changed, and decency is not at all in fashion. Money rules the world, and everyone should live exclusively for himself. Unfortunately, many do so. They only care about “green papers”, expensive cars, luxurious things, parties ... But can materially replace decency, kindness, spirituality, sympathy, empathy, love, friendship? There are still people to whom these concepts are incredibly close, and there are many, believe me. It is very important to understand that we are all guests in this world, and therefore it is important to take care of the moral and spiritual side, and not the material.
Let only decent and worthy people meet on your way!