A failed relationship, a recent breakup, an unrequited love ... How often all our thoughts are focused on someone who does not even know about our feelings. How to stop thinking about a person who does not reciprocate? Thinking or dreaming about it, you thereby attach it to yourself. And so one of the first tasks is to let go. This is a symbolic action that must happen exclusively in your soul.
You can imagine (visualize) this process, for example, as if you are releasing a bird from the cage. You fed her, cared for, but kept in captivity. And now - open the door and watch it soar into the clouds and fly away into the distance. How to stop thinking about a person? Imagine all your thoughts connected with it in the form of balloons with helium. You hold them in your hands, but they burst into the sky. At one point, you let them go and watch them fly high.
Such a psychological maneuver will help you free yourself from burdensome experiences. There are other ways to stop thinking about the person who caused the pain. Unrequitedly in love and suffering from
This may be the next trick. In order not to think about a person, not to idealize him (after all, this is what hurts you the most, because you think that he is so wonderful and you are unworthy of him), you need to try to imagine him in an unsightly or funny situation. For example, imagine how he picks his nose or how he will behave if he is caught without a ticket. Presented? Often, all great virtues and nobility are nothing more than a figment of our imagination. One who is truly worthy of your feelings will never make you suffer and cry. You cannot force yourself to stop thinking.
Willpower and constant internal persuasion will not help. This is the same as saying to yourself: "You can’t think of a green monkey." Immediately this same gorilla or macaque will flicker before your eyes. Therefore, you need to look for ways to help distract.
How to stop thinking about the person who caused the pain? Many are trying to plunge into a new relationship. But this is not always a good way out of the situation. If you fall in love with someone else, then, of course, thoughts about the former will evaporate by themselves. But starting a relationship just to forget someone is not worth it.
A long-known way of stopping thinking about a person who has left or died, abandoned us or offended us - to change the situation. Before
parents sent victims of
unhappy love abroad, to study at a closed college, to serve. And that was common sense. You can move to another city or even just rearrange the furniture.
How to stop thinking about a person? To repaint the walls, remove joint photos, hide or throw away all the souvenirs that remind you of it. By the way, parting with things that are strongly associated with the one you want to forget is a symbolic and important step on the path to inner liberation. It is not necessary to burn gifts or cut into small pieces of his clothes. You can simply give things to the needy or put them out on the street so that they can be taken apart by poor people. And the internal reward for all this will be the realization that now only you yourself decide how you will live. You must not obey other people's tastes and fulfill other people's expectations. It is this thought that will help achieve inner balance.