Every woman is looking forward to the moment when she becomes a mother. However, after childbirth there are quite a few problems that concern the female body. In this article I want to talk about when you can have sex after childbirth without harm to your own health, and what problems can arise.
About attraction
First of all, it is worthwhile to understand when sexual desire appears after the birth process. It is important to note that this is all very individual and depends on multiple factors. So, a woman’s sexual temperament, possible psychological barriers that often arise after the birth process can affect her, fear that it will hurt, or usual tiredness from worries with a newborn. A huge influence on the sexual activity of a lady is exerted by her psychological state. So, postpartum depression kills female sexuality, and during this period a woman may not only not want her husband, but even be afraid to have sexual intercourse with him. It is worth saying that it is necessary to treat this state of a woman with understanding and wait a bit, without causing her beloved physiological and psychological discomfort. Sex drive can decrease significantly not only in women, but also in men. Dads can also get tired of worries, they have a fear of hurting a partner during intercourse, and various psychological barriers in men are also possible. Very often, issues of sexual relations can become a stumbling block for young parents: women may think that their sex life is over forever. However, do not panic, this condition will last no longer than the first year of a child's life. Further, everything normalizes, the hormonal background of a woman will come in a relative order, and the intimate relationship will improve.
Delay reasons
If a woman wants to understand when it is possible to have sex after childbirth, she and her husband should understand that there is no single answer to this question. Everything is very individual and depends on many factors. However, speaking generally, it is necessary to wait for the time when the uterus fully returns to normal (decreases), the natural postpartum discharge - lochia ceases, the mucous membranes of the perineum and vagina are completely restored.
Physiological problems
So, when can I have sex after childbirth? For the first time, young parents may encounter this issue in the first weeks after the birth of the baby. However, various physiological processes that will occur in the body of a woman will prevent this. First of all, these are lochia - specific discharge similar to menstruation. They can last from several weeks to a month. The wound will also heal in the place where the placenta wall was attached to the uterus, the vagina will be restored. Sex at this time will bring not only discomfort to partners, but can also be dangerous in terms of introducing infection through the genitals into the fragile body of a young mother.
Complications
Particular attention should be paid to such a problem as complications during childbirth. The most common of these are perineal tears. If the young mother still has stitches after childbirth, sex at this time is strictly prohibited. Until everything heals, and the doctors remove the stitches and do not allow sex, it is impossible to engage in amateur performances, because this can be extremely dangerous to health.
Cesarean section
The same can be said if a woman gave birth by caesarean section. In this case, the lady is not recommended to enter into intimacy with her husband until the internal seams heal. The doctor will tell you more about this, because the healing processes of each woman take place differently and require a different amount of time. In this case, it is only necessary to begin sexual activity after consulting a doctor.
About pain
It also happens that a woman after childbirth is painful to have sex. Why is this happening, what is the reason? The fact is that after the birth of a baby in the body of a woman, the amount of such a hormone as estrogen decreases. It is his deficiency that can cause dryness in the vagina and, as a result, discomfort during sex. It is easy to fix the problem, you just need to use special lubricants. Also, discomfort during intercourse with a lady can occur if the man is not too careful about his partner. It is worth noting that the first sexual contact should be as gentle, gentle, calm, without high speeds and strong movements. Only gradually can a woman feel herself sexual again and increase her libido. It is important to note that there are also psychological barriers that can cause pain and discomfort in a woman's body. A doctor will help to cope with such a problem.
Psychological problems
We answer the question of when you can have sex after childbirth, then. A huge component of the decrease in the libido of a lady is psychological restructuring. So, a woman begins to devote almost all of her time to the baby’s birth field, often simply ignoring her husband. It may seem to a lady that she will become a bad mother if she does not act like that. There may arise various negative emotions in relation to sex, some alienation, because it may seem that with such an act, the mother betrays the baby. You can cope with this problem yourself. One has only to understand that a child will only be happy when happy people surround him. And not only mom, but dad. Very often, women may dislike their own husband. Dealing with this problem will be somewhat more difficult, but everything is surmountable. You may need the help of specialists, but first of all, a man should prove himself. With all his appearance, he must show that he cares about his family: helps mom and child, takes care of the house, helps in the kitchen. Time will pass and the woman will surely soften if the husband behaves correctly. Another huge problem: the woman’s fear that she has become unattractive to her husband. A small postpartum tummy, excess weight, possible stretch marks and saggy skin - all this will be, however, over time, the body will recover. All this will not disappear right away. Moreover, in the first time after childbirth it is impossible to force the body to exercise. Again, only the husband will help to cope with the problem, who will constantly compliment the woman and explain that she is always loved and desired for him in any state. If a woman is more often visited by the thought “I'm afraid to have sex after childbirth”, the reason for this may be the fear of a new pregnancy. The young mother has not forgotten everything that happened during childbirth, the baby does not allow to rest - all this can cause fear of intimacy. Well, this can be dealt with quite simply by using contraception.
Early sexual relations
Is sex possible a week after giving birth? The answer will be unequivocal: no. Even if both partners really want it. You must first think about your health. So, the woman’s body is not yet ready for this: nothing has yet been restored and has not fallen into place. At least four weeks must pass before sexual relations can be resumed. So, the earliest date: sex a month after birth. And only if the birth took place without complications. The ideal time is considered to be 6 weeks after giving birth. If the desire is just huge, you can try alternative methods. So, some practice anal or oral sex. In this case, it is almost impossible to introduce an infection, however, you still need to be extremely careful during intimacy so as not to hurt your partner.
About poses
What should a woman know after childbirth? When to have sex and how to choose the right position for this. So, a missionary position would be a good option, but at this time, the man should be as calm and gentle as possible in relation to his lady. The position “rider" is also acceptable, when a woman can independently regulate the speed of sexual intercourse, as well as the depth of penetration of male dignity. It is important to say a few words about the chest. At first, all touching this part of the female body can be extremely painful. This applies to all women. If the mother is breastfeeding, lactation has not yet improved, and chest pain can be a frequent occurrence. For the same reason, manual stimulation of the nipples is not recommended, because it can cause severe pain and a rush of milk.
Contraception
Having reviewed all the options, in which period after childbirth it is impossible to have sex, it is worth paying a few words to such a topic as contraception. Very often, women have the question: why are there so many children now - the weather? And all because ladies often still use grandmother's advice on contraception in the first time after childbirth. So, it is believed that a woman cannot become pregnant while breastfeeding her baby. However, this is not at all true. The hormone oxytocin, of course, is produced, but it is not always enough to protect yourself from a new pregnancy. It is important to remember that already after 28 weeks after giving birth the egg is fully capable of fertilization. The first menstruation can signal this , it is important to always remember this. The calendar method of contraception is unreliable in such a situation, because the cycle of menstruation is completely unsettled, as well as the barrier method, which in all cases is unreliable, because sperm can be found not only in semen, but also in the natural lubricant that is excreted in men. The ideal option is to use condoms. Three months after giving birth, a spiral can also be implanted to a woman - a fairly reliable and low-cost way to prevent pregnancy. As for hormonal oral contraceptives, it is not recommended to use them in the first year after childbirth or while breastfeeding.