A superficial person is a very extensible concept. Everyone puts a different meaning into it, but the basic setting is the same - the reluctance to go deep, and therefore understand life itself. Such a person does not really think about the feelings of others and his own life, and, in general, about something. Such people are often said to be shallow morally or intellectually. They look like ordinary people, but inside there are empty creatures. Let's look at the signs of the so-called near man.
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Often, when we hang stigma “superficial” on a person, the problem lies in our own perception. This phenomenon is very frequent: one person does not understand the other, does not hear his words and does not recognize motives, and, not wanting to go deeper, draws his conclusion that he is a superficial person. So this topic is worth considering. And in the article will be given signs characterizing a superficial person. Let's say they hung a cliche on an identity. But before you paint it in colors, you should think, maybe we, condemning the other, we think superficially?
Lack of clear beliefs
If a person does not have a “moral compass” inside, then his actions are not subordinated to a single goal. His actions will be rather pragmatic, aimed at their own benefit. The boundaries of solid beliefs are too blurred, because to strengthen the principles of life, it takes a lot of work of thought. For a superficial person, long and painstaking reflections do not make sense, and therefore he can turn his worldview at any time in the right and convenient direction.
Dim inner world
It is impossible to see the spiritual beauty of a person by barely touching it. This takes time and desire, and only then can you see the colors of the hidden world of a person who before that seemed completely different. Sometimes even in the most ordinary-looking candy wrapper there can be a delicious candy. With a superficial person this will not happen. As soon as you look at his inner world, you will not find anything special. This will not happen because it was open to you immediately, but there was simply nothing to “unpack”.
Lack of self-awareness
Self-awareness allows you to analyze your own life. This process selects not only time, but also human energy. When you start to plunge into your thoughts and think about your own life, it is not known where you will come. No one can promise that it will be easy. In such conditions, one can understand people who simply neglect introspection. For them, this seems too difficult, and most importantly, a completely redundant process. Unfortunately, this method often leads to the repetition of the same mistakes in life, and therefore to disappointment.
Narrow perception of the world
It is impossible to have a wide view and still be superficial. No, not even that, it would be more accurate to say otherwise: it is impossible, having a broad view of things, to remain superficial in life. If a person does not see anything except work and home, he is often perceived as a boring and uninteresting person. A superficial person is not a sentence or fate, he is not born that way, but becomes. If we draw an analogy of life with a tunnel, then the need for depth of self and breadth of knowledge really disappears as unnecessary.
Excessive materialism
Having nothing valuable inside, a person is inclined to reach for everything external. Expecting that an expensive car, a beautiful dress, or a new partner will help fill the void inside, a person wishes it all with startling fury. In fact, as soon as you get what you want, the hole inside begins to gap with a new force. It turns out that material things are not able to enrich the inner world, but we continue to rely on them too much, partly by inertia and despair. In this situation, a person thinks superficially and drives himself into his own trap.
Lack of own opinion
If there are no beliefs and principles inside, then it is very difficult to formulate a concrete opinion about something. But a person will not begin to think about such a problem. In this case, the majority opinion is accepted. This seems to be not only easier, but also profitable. Still, herd instinct is developed quite strongly in humans, and especially in the case of superficial perception.
Hasty assessment and premature conclusions
To judge in justice or to analyze the action of another person is a laborious work of thought. Doubts, emotions, actions - all this only complicates the matter. Until such a question is resolved, he swims in the mind and in every way reminds himself. For superficial people, this circumstance is catastrophic, because it makes you think. It would be much easier to simply give out your assessment - “loser”, or to draw premature conclusions, they say, you betrayed me. Hearing a person in difficult times is the dignity of very few, and if thinking is superficial at the same time, it is completely impossible.
Find out what life is like with the pink glasses
The idealization of the world around is inherent in people of high intellectual abilities. The difference is that individuals with a lively and moving mind often understand how the world around them works, but just do not want to accept it, it becomes elementary scary. A superficial person does not even have a clue that life is not always like a fairy tale, and when difficulties come, he sincerely wonders how it all happened. And if the idea of an ideal world can be forgiven for a child, then when an adult puts on pink glasses, this is a problem that should be solved.
And finally, let's talk about high self-esteem
Without a depth within, a superficial person cannot look deep into other people. He does not think that they have any concerns and difficulties of their own, believing that only he has problems. It sounds extremely illogical and stupid, but to understand this, you need to look at yourself from the side, and therefore, to think. Superficial thinking puts its own difficulties in the first position. And such a person believes that everyone should revolve around her, because she needs it. They often say about such people, they say, they are sure that they all owe them. Now we know what a superficial and dim-witted person is.