If we consider it in a narrow sense, then motherhood is a process of bearing, feeding and raising a child. Modern women are divided into two types: those who want to have children, and those who do not have such a desire or are afraid.
Separation of positions
Unfortunately, more and more often the problem of reluctance to have a baby becomes visible to society, as future mothers see the process of motherhood too negatively. An example of this is the huge number of family breakdowns in which child care often falls on women's shoulders.
But motherhood and childhood are the two most beautiful “events” in the life of every person. The woman who gave birth to a child gives all her time, all the warmth and affection that she has, to him - the dearest little man in the world. She anxiously cares about the condition of the baby, when he is still just developing inside her, and then also anxiously takes care of him after birth.
In order for a woman to feel safe, there are a number of instruments of social, legal and state protection of motherhood.
Rights and obligations
The problem of motherhood is considered at the state level, for its solution there are a number of codes, techniques and mechanisms. The state is careful in maintaining the health of the mother and the unborn child, providing them with free care in hospitals and clinics. Authorities motivate parents to have children, guaranteeing them all kinds of social benefits, benefits, equal rights of mother and father.
The state shall protect the interests and rights of the child, regardless of whether his parents are married or not. Maternity and paternity are endowed not only with equal rights in relation to the child, but also with responsibilities. Often fathers move away from their own children, not being able to communicate with them, especially in the first years of the child's life. But such a model of behavior is not true, because the baby should receive fatherly love, feel that it is equally important for mom and dad. If a boy grows up in a family, then his father will help him to form a masculine beginning and character, and if a girl, he will form a concept of men in her.
Guarding motherhood
In recent years, more and more women have come to the conclusion that they should create families, give birth to children. So it was laid by nature, this way the demographic level of development of the country is maintained. Maternity protection consists not only in providing free medical care to children and their mothers, but also in a number of other actions.
A pregnant woman does not have the right to deprive her of a work place; she cannot be involved in hard work, night work, or sent on business trips. Mothers with many children receive social assistance in the payment of subsidies for children, as well as, if necessary, psychological support. There are many more comprehensive services to support mothers and children, providing them with the necessary assistance at the financial and social level. The state carefully monitors the birth rate and mortality of infants, works to strengthen measures to protect the health of pregnant women and their children.
Responsible decision
Often you can meet a family where parents dream of a child. It is important to understand that family and motherhood require a serious approach. A married couple may say that they are planning to have a baby, but do future parents suggest how their life will change with the advent of a small miracle?
How is it possible to give birth to a healthy baby? Health is not only the absence of any visible diseases, it is also the psychological state of the body. Parents should abandon bad habits long before the birth of their baby, be mentally prepared for such a significant event. It is important to be a family in everything: support each other, help, plan a budget for which everything necessary for a pregnant woman and a future baby will be acquired. Currently, more and more often only a woman takes on such a mission, and a man fades into the background. Motherhood is, first of all, a conscious step, where a woman understands all the responsibility assigned to her. After all, now she has to think not only about herself, but also about the little man.
Imprint of the past
It is precisely his family who sets the behavior model for each person on the planet: how his parents treated him in childhood, how they brought up what they taught. It is believed that women who have grown up in single-parent families will not be able to give proper education to their children. But there is another opinion: such representatives of the weaker sex, on the contrary, will try to make motherhood and childhood of their baby better than they experienced.
Someone is looking for a worthy person to create his own “world” with him, while someone has the strength and courage to create this “world” on his own. However, the key task of the mother is to raise her child. Mother gives all the love, kindness and tenderness to the last drop to the baby, lives with him again the first steps, the first resentments and joys, the first love - all over again and in a new way.
Perhaps this is the charm of motherhood - to be a child again, to fall in love with fairy tales and cartoons, and again to enjoy simple little things.
Surrogate mother
If everything is explicable with the concept of motherhood, then what is surrogate motherhood? A surrogate mother is a rather illusory concept, since a woman who carries and gives birth to a child gives him up for education to genetic parents. That is, he voluntarily agrees to become pregnant with the help of someone else's egg and sperm. As a rule, it is precisely the financial side of the issue that pushes the representatives of the weaker sex because such money is paid rather big.
Throughout pregnancy, a woman is obliged to monitor her health and the health of the unborn baby exactly as her genetic parents dictate to her. Surrogate motherhood, as a rule, is based on a legally fixed agreement, which clearly states that after the birth of a baby, this woman in labor does not have any rights to him.
Is a surrogate mother entitled to a child?
A surrogate mother does such an act voluntarily, for her own reasons, but she must fulfill a number of requirements that are very detailed in the contract:
- visit doctors regularly
- monitor the course of pregnancy,
- eat properly,
- not have addictions
- limit physical activity,
- monitor your psycho-emotional state.
All this is done only for the health of the future baby. If you want, this is a kind of work that will end immediately after the baby is born.
Motherhood is a joyful process, but a surrogate mother can hardly feel these emotions on herself. She carries a child completely alien to her and should not be attached to him, as she will never be able to participate in his upbringing. And if she decides to ever prove herself in the life of this child, then, most likely, losing litigation awaits her. Therefore, you should think about whether to go for such an act.
Surrogate mother requirements
What are the criteria for choosing a woman who will become the "bearer" of someone else's child?
For such purposes, women of young age (from 25 to 35 years), physically and mentally healthy, with at least one child, are selected. They are carefully examined for the presence of chronic diseases and drug addiction. If a surrogate mother lives with her spouse during the bearing of a child, then he will also need to be observed by doctors in order to exclude the risks of all kinds of diseases that can be transmitted to the surrogate mother, and from her to the child.
In other words, the requirements for a woman who can bear a child for strangers are very high. And the amount of remuneration for this "work" in most cases is quite impressive.
To be mom
And yet, motherhood is a natural process that causes a lot of emotions, the main of which is love. So much time is needed to make a child, to monitor his health before and after birth, to care for, understand and support.
Is it really possible not to become attached to a child who has been in the womb for as long as 9 months? Is it really possible not to feel anything emotionally when a new person is born? Each mother will answer such questions in her own way, but they will all say that the best they have is love for their baby.
There is an invisible connection between the child and the mother, understood only by both of them. Surely every girl wants to experience these feelings, feel like a mom. And when there is such a desire, then no difficulties can force to abandon his own person. After all, alas, far from everyone is given to be a mother.