A lot of smart books have been written about the father's house. Some of them correctly describe life situations, others give the impression that their author is a naive child who has not tried the real hardships of kinship. No matter how strange it sounds, both of them are right. There are no two identical families, respectively, a father's house is a kind of concept that can have many meanings. But from all the information that can be found on the Internet, the general rules stand out, which founded more than one cell of modern society.
Father's house - what a place
Under this name lies the beloved and cherished image of the parental home. It is he who becomes the starting point of any fate. Two people live in these walls, giving life to a particular person and that foundation on which all his further actions will be based.
The atmosphere in the father's house
The whole subsequent life of their offspring depends on the atmosphere inside the parental family. Psychologists have long proved that all the problems of adults come from childhood, when the future personality is laid. An indicator of how comfortable and good the child was in his father’s house can be seen in his attitude to his close environment and the ability to organically fit into society, and not just become its separate part.
But there are exceptions to the rules. An important role is played by that factor, which few people pay attention to - these are genes. Such cases are enough, for an example we can recall a couple of them:
- A long-awaited child appears in the family. And so exhausted, and suffered by all the children shower all relatives with attention. For this child there will be the best toys, he will select the most skilled teachers and a school with brilliant pupils. Parents with their child will visit all circles of the city, he will celebrate with them all possible holidays. It would seem that this baby has a wonderful future. But what happens is that no one expects. A caressed man in the future will settle accounts with life in some way. He either gets drunk or contacts an unsuitable company that is fatal.
- In the same house, having mourned their grief, over time they decide to have another child. When he appears, parents do not take his eyes off him, literally blowing dust particles from the baby. They provide him with the best life set, carefully dosing the slightest exits from the house and controlling the entire environment of the child. Everything seems to be under control. But the development of events may take a completely different turn. Under the oppression of parental care, the young person is trying to find ways to express themselves or at least release the raging energy that everyone is trying to channel into the necessary, according to their opinion, channel. In clumsy attempts to find himself and preferably without the knowledge of relatives, a person, due to lack of life experience, finds himself in a bad situation, which leads to a sad end. And everyone is trying to understand why this happened. After all, they provided for everything they could.
When a child must leave the parental family
In families where there are echoes of Soviet upbringing, it is also believed that a girl can leave her parents only under her husband’s wing, and a guy is free to stay with his elderly parents and to leave in his own or rented housing as soon as he starts earning .
But modern perception makes its way into every home, and more and more people think that there is nothing wrong with the fact that a girl, like a guy, will begin an independent life without outside support. Therefore, today, leaving home, a person must understand that he is able to separate and continue this life without parents.
Why do adult children stay with their parents
Unfortunately, for most young people, a home from home is not only the place of residence of the parental family, but also the point of deployment of their own personality. In some cases, it becomes a joint nest of a nascent couple with another person.
This happens for various reasons, and they do not always depend on the person himself. More often than not, he is not allowed to move into a separate house for a financial issue, since in many cities apartments have to pay such large sums that many families have never held in their hands for a lifetime. And therefore, for such people, a father's house is the only option not to be on the street.
But it happens quite the opposite. The young man has everything for a good start in an independent life, but he himself is not in a hurry at this point in his fate, or his parents are desperate for him, who panicky represent their future life only with each other. In this case, this family needs outside help, otherwise such actions will destroy the young life, and will not allow the adult child to create his own family.
Generational Link
Whatever the decisions within the individual family, this should not affect its integrity and kinship. Let the children matured and go on their own swimming, they should not forget about those people who gave them the opportunity to live and enjoy every day.
This does not oblige them to give back any mythical debts, gritting their teeth, giving up their own desires for the benefit of those who have already lived their lives. They will give everything that parents gave them to their children, raising a new generation.
The question is different. Elderly parents need the usual manifestations of attention in order to realize their need for children. They want to understand that they did not live their lives in vain and were able to raise worthy people.