Relations between people can be discussed for a long time. What is the relationship between a man and a woman. A lot of poems are written on this subject, novels are written, songs are invented. And psychologists are constantly trying to follow the life of couples in a romantic relationship in order to come up with another technique for resolving conflicts and reviving fading feelings.
It is worthwhile to pay tribute to the technique called "closer-further" ("B-D"). In this article we will understand what the essence of this technique is, for whom it is applicable, and what to do if you feel that you yourself have become a victim of the application of such influence.
The closer-farther technique: what is it?
This technique is a kind of psychological device, which consists in either moving away from your partner or approaching him. We give an example. At the beginning of the relationship, the guy takes care of the girl, writes and calls her every day, gives gifts and does not disregard literally for a minute. Agree, you get used to the good very quickly. As a result, the girl may well lose interest in the gentleman, taking his courtship for granted.
To prevent this from happening, the young man suddenly begins to relate to his passion rather coldly. Does not invite to meetings, does not write SMS. Moreover, he may not even answer calls. As a rule, a girl, trying to regain her former disposition, will do everything possible: she will independently show initiative, will be hungry for meetings and dates. And so, when the attention of the young man returns, her joy will not be bound.
In general, the closer-to-further technique is a specific method of partner manipulation. After all, starting your game, in most cases you already know how it will end. It would seem that everything is quite simple. But how does this trick really work?
The mechanism of operation of the technology "B-D"
In common people, this mechanism has already been given the name: "get your own price." Here you can not do without one more small example. Imagine you are buying an apartment. The seller shows you it, talking about all the advantages. You understand that this is ideal - it will be rather difficult to find better. The seller simply sees through the eyes that you are ready to give any money for housing. Perhaps even overpricing its cost. But you are not in a hurry. And suddenly leave, saying what you need to think about. The seller watches with annoyance how he loses a potential buyer. It can be argued that the same day they will call you back and offer the same apartment at the old price or even make a discount.
The same thing happens between two partners playing cat and mouse. Sometimes you need to let a person know that you can just disappear at any time. But we only think about the value of something when we lose. The “closer-further” technique gives the feeling of losing an important person in life. I would like to note that the B-D method is actively used in pickups. But who does the technique affect more: boys or girls?
Who is the closer-farther trick for?
Here the opinions of psychologists strongly disagreed. Some say that the technique was originally laid in the female head, so they are used in most cases by the fair sex. And they do this unconsciously: they simply have in their genes to play with the chosen one, either letting him in or out.
Others insist that such behavior is characteristic of men. Like, they, being hunters by nature, retreat when they realize that the victim is already on the hook. Then it becomes uninteresting for them, and they begin to conquer another object. We can say that such a manipulation works with almost all people. However, there are nuances for using the technique for both girls and boys.
"B-D" for girls
The “closer-further” technique for girls often becomes a lifesaver. It allows you to warm up an unprecedented interest in yourself. As mentioned earlier, a man always likes to act as a conqueror. The young lady is much more difficult to play such a game. After all, the genes initially laid down that it should not take the initiative, but only take signs of attention.
Initially, a woman can fully reciprocate, be open in conversation and do everything so that the chosen one understands that she is located towards him. Then the girl brings a chill in the relationship, not always agreeing to come to a meeting. In addition, she can make it clear that in addition to this guy in her life there are other gentlemen. The “closer-further” technique works in a similar way with a man, but there are nuances here.
"B-D" for guys
A man must understand that the closer-farther technique is a pendulum for girls. Then your task is to first give the young lady what she needs. And this is not about the material side. It talks about compliments, attention, help and support in all endeavors, care, affection, guardianship. And every woman needs this, no matter how cold and self-sufficient she seems at first glance.
Then, when you step back, she will miss the emotions and feelings that she experienced with you. Therefore, the woman herself will begin to look for meetings. But no matter how similar people we are, there are clear conditions under which the closer-to-further technique gives positive results.
Mandatory conditions for the equipment "B-D"
The first prerequisite is the indifference of your partner. The main thing is not to have illusions and adequately evaluate the attitude of another person towards you. You can endlessly win, lose and think anything, and your half will not even know that you are having fun.
So, if a young man shows attention to a girl, and she accepts him, he may think that he is now at the “closer” stage. Then, turning on the same “further”, temporarily stops communication and waits for the initiative from the lady. But expectations are in vain - she does not remember the guy. The girl was just pleased to receive attention from the young man, but she did not agree for more. And when the gentleman suddenly disappeared, she only sighed with relief. Like, one intrusive boyfriend became less.
Before proceeding to the “next” stage, be sure to spend enough time at the “closer” stage and manage to hook your partner. Sometimes a few dates are not enough to evoke feelings in another person. Courts at the closer stage can last a considerable period. It should be enough to melt the heart of the chosen one.
According to many people, the B-D technique is considered a brutal manipulation of another person. They believe that only avid pick-upers do this and strive to break as many hearts as possible. But, despite such skeptical opinions, sometimes such a technique can help maintain relationships and even family.
The closer-on technique in a relationship
As a rule, all relationships begin with a "candy-bouquet" period. Everything seems sublime and beautiful. You expect that it will always be so. Often women come to this thought. A man plays the role of a hunter. And he thinks that he can very well relax when his beloved is nearby. He believes that now it is the girl’s turn to contribute to the relationship. The problem is that a man cannot always stop. And the period when he acts as a "recipient" is delayed. He does not see when it is necessary to nourish a woman’s interest in himself, therefore he can lose her.
But it happens when everything happens the other way around. A man extols a woman; in his eyes she is a goddess. Soon, his beloved believes that such behavior is the norm. The young lady will want more, and will not appreciate what she already has. Then the “closer-further” technique will come in handy. Kryshnosy, original tricks that lead to the lady experiencing a pleasant shock, work in this case.
“B-D” in this case will make it clear to the partner what he may lose, will help to realize the value of the relationship. It is worth stopping one of the participants in the pair to perform the usual functions - the other will immediately feel it. After all, as they say, it is not always visible when we do something for someone. It becomes noticeable when we stop doing this.
Possible risks of "operation"
Before moving away from the chosen one, you need to be ready to leave forever, no matter how sad it may sound. It so happens that it is in the "next" phase that the partner realizes that your relationship was a mistake - he is even better without you. This is the flip side of the coin, which is present in every psychological device.
But do not be afraid of such an outcome. Think about it, but is it worth it to keep that which itself leaves you? Perhaps everything is for the better, and you are still destined for happiness with another person? Now that you know about this method, you understand how to oppose the closer-and-forth technique, or to apply it only in good faith.