Self-made bosses are quite common. From them I want to cry and hide somewhere far away. Our happiness, if there is an opportunity to change jobs.
When a tyrant lives in a family, then it’s much worse. Do not hide from him, do not run away and do nothing. Although, having understood what tyranny is based on, one can solve the problem of the behavior of such a person.
Who is tyrant?
The most unrestrained of us will answer shortly and clearly. Samodur is a sick comrade.
Only such an answer is incorrect. Samodur is a person who has power over other people. Fulfills his whims, ignoring the desires of others. Samoduru is pleased to humiliate others. He rises above others, humiliating them.
Recall Ostrovsky
More precisely, his work entitled "Thunderstorm". There is a certain Savl Prokofievich Wild. His surname is speaking, but his temperament is just to match her.
This Wild was a real tyrant. A wealthy merchant with as much money as leaves on trees. This man was seriously considered. And this fact impressed Saul. Wild decided that money is everything. Partly the way it was. Few could familiarly pat the city man on the shoulder. But it was not difficult for Savl Prokofievich.
The merchant was cruel to his subordinates. The delay was delayed, sometimes he paid quite a penny. Workers tried to be indignant, but Wild began to rage. Screaming that they are worms, he will want and destroy everyone at once.
Pets got worse from a rich man. Petty tyranny is a terrible trait of character from which the whole human environment suffers. So the Wild family had to suffer. How many times did they run away from home or sit out in the attic when dear husband and father went wild.
Why was Saul Prokofievich a tyrant? Yes, because he had money in his hands. And he believed that he had the right to everything. At heart, Wild is a cowardly man who is stewed when he is rebuffed. True, no one dared to do this, except Kabanikha.
Who is the Boar?
The tyranny of the Wild and the Boar is different. If he is a rich coward, then she is an ardent defender of antiquity. Marfa Ignatievna Kabanova is a vivid image of ignorance, bigotry and obscurantism. It would seem that this woman is a believer. In her speech, words such as "grave sin" slip through, for example. But her concepts of life have nothing to do with true faith. And the words are used for one purpose: to make the interlocutor obey.
Kabanova completely refuses to accept any innovations. She lives the old fashioned way, and teaches others the same thing. Her tyranny is the imposition of her worldview at home. Tikhon’s son was choked to such an extent that he was afraid to utter a word. Slightly what, Kabanikha screamed at him, reproached, maliciously. Daughter-in-law Katerina ate by eating. And when she died, Kabanikh did not feel her guilt.
If Wild is a coward and a fool, then Kabanova, with all her ignorance, is cunning and smart. She is an excellent manipulator, able to suppress the will of other people. Martha Ignatyevna is afraid of Wild himself. She is able to fight him back. Nobody risks competing with her, everyone is afraid.
Despotism and tyranny are the main character traits of the Kabanikh. Angry and cunning, living in her own way, not wanting to change anything, she is an example of a dark fanatic for whom there are no points of view except her own.
Troekurov
Now consider the tyranny of Troekurov. This is the hero of the novel "Dubrovsky". Who wrote it is not worth reminding.
Kirill Petrovich Troekurov - a typical tyrant. He and Wild are two pair boots. Both are greedy for money and believe that capital is everything. Passion for money and unlimited power, this is the main features of both characters.
But if Wild was cowardly, then Troyekurov is quite a decisive person. He is distinguished by his excellent cruelty. And the one who is poorer than him is a jerk in the eyes of Kirill Petrovich.
Because of his cruelty, he took the life of Andrei Gavrilovich Dubrovsky. But once they were comrades. Troekurov did not like that Dubrovsky was not fawning on him. He was too proud and self-sufficient. This infuriated Kirill Petrovich. And he took away the estate from Andrei Gavrilovich.
From such permissiveness Dubrovsky lay down. Yes, and did not recover from the disease. But Troekurov was not enough. He ruined the life of his daughter Masha. Petty tyranny is a disgusting trait that the rich man possessed. Upon learning that the daughter is in love with Vladimir Dubrovsky, the son of the former comrade Troekurov, the tyrant father forcibly marries her. Thus, the fate of Masha and Vladimir is broken.
If near tyrant
Literature is a good thing. But what to do in real life when you have to deal with tyranny?
If this is a boss who believes that everything is based on money, do not be afraid to repulse him. Putting such a person in place is difficult, but possible. Let him know that you will not tolerate a boorish attitude towards yourself. When it gets really tight - quit. Better to lose a job than nerves and health.
If tyranny is a typical trait of someone close, do not succumb to their pressure. They try to suggest to you how bad you are: offend a relative, do not listen to him, think you are smarter. Admit - yes, I'm bad. Do not let guilt grow in you. Samodur is just that. Feel free to defend your interests and uphold your position in life.
Conclusion
The main features of tyranny are unlimited cruelty towards others, the suppression of the will of others and the manipulation of people. Samoduras are most often rich people. They believe that money gives them power over others.
Whenever possible, try to avoid such people. And if you have to collide, then put in place. Let them know that money is not a reason to humiliate others.