Everyone knows the Latin winged expression of memento mori, which the heroes of the old Soviet film mistakenly translated as "instantly - at sea." In fact, this statement has nothing to do with the marine theme, and its literal translation means "remember death." Some fear of the eternal darkness is present to some extent in each of us. It is unlikely that there will be someone in the world who at least once in his life has not thought about what death is, how, when and why it comes, what a person feels before death, etc. Unfortunately, nothing on earth is eternal, and man is no exception.
Fear of death is not a pathology or a sign of cowardice if it does not go beyond reasonable boundaries. It is common for any of us to worry about our lives, and this is normal. Worse, when a healthy fear, designed only to be careful and avoid dangerous situations, turns into a phobia. For the emergence of such feelings, there are many reasons. First of all, it is the unknown and unwillingness to be forgotten by their descendants. Another common cause is fear of death itself. No one is given to know in advance when she will appear and which method she will choose. “Will it be quick or painful?” What does a person feel before death? Is it easy to part with life? What words does a dying man have to say before death? ” - Similar chilling questions are visited by everyone living in the world, and more than once. It is impossible to get definite answers to them, since each person has his own life and death.
As a rule, the panic fear of non-existence is more inherent in people who live a boring, dull and joyless life, rather than those whose existence is filled with all sorts of interesting events. The former are afraid that they won’t manage to do anything during their stay on the earth, but the second sometimes it’s just no time to ask such questions - their life is boiling. Often the fear of leaving this world is suddenly observed in those who underwent a complex operation under deep and prolonged anesthesia, or in people who have been in a state of clinical death. The stories that they tell, having regained consciousness, are sometimes terrifying. Of course, it’s not easy to return to normal life, “having been on the verge of worlds” and experiencing what a person feels before death, while remaining virtually alive. Such people are often afraid to fall asleep in the evenings, because they have a strong fear of not waking up in the morning. It is possible and even necessary to combat such phobias. To begin with, it’s worth trying to do it yourself, for example, stop building long-term plans, and live “today and now”, trying to fill every day with interesting events. If such therapy does not help, it makes sense to seek professional help from a specialist.
Fear for the life of loved ones stands apart. Indeed, it’s hard to even imagine that the person you love will suddenly become gone. It is even more difficult to observe the gradual extinction of a close friend or relative (for example, during a long illness), not being able to help him somehow, somehow alleviate the suffering. In order to calm yourself down and bring your nervous system to life, you need to remember that death is not only the natural end of the earthly body, but also the beginning of a new journey of the soul. Perhaps in a different world and in a different guise, she will be much better than on our land.
In conclusion, I want to say that the fear of death should not destroy a person in life. Every day we endanger ourselves - we cross the roadway, where a dashing driver can run into us, fly on airplanes that constantly fall, meet people who do not always have good intentions. Even in our own home, we are not immune to fire, earthquakes, or falling chandeliers on our heads, which could very well be fatal. You just don’t have to think about it constantly, in the colors to imagine what a person feels before death, what he thinks at the last moment of his life, etc. It has long been proved that thoughts have the property of materialization, so you should not tempt fate by attracting undesirable situations to you with irreversible consequences.