All human life is filled with moments of interaction with their own kind. It was so arranged from the very beginning, and it simply cannot be otherwise. This interaction can be both positive and negative. Most people are still capable of doing good to others, and even have a need for it.
Helping others
Sooner or later, you have to do something for others, at will, or simply because it is necessary. Often there are requests to provide all possible assistance in a matter, what does this mean? There is a category of people who are used to what everyone does for them, and when this does not happen, they ask without a twinge of conscience to be done or given one or the other. If this does not happen, then they are obsessively asking and reminding of themselves. And a person does this only to be left alone. But there is a concept of feasible help - this is when a person fulfills a request or does as he wishes, without coercion and without harm to himself.
Everyone can, not everyone wants
The meaning is explained in the word itself. Allowable help is help within our means. What a person can do without harming his finances and health. Without prejudice to family, work or other business. All possible assistance is what a specific person can do, because everyone has their own abilities. And that which is not difficult for one, for the second, may be feasible, but with difficulties and problems.
A person performs such a rendering painfully, due to the circumstances that he cannot refuse for some reason. But, even if a person can do something for another and it doesn’t cost him anything, he doesn’t have to do it, he just may not want to help. No matter how it looks from the outside, but the one to whom they turned for help has the right to refuse, and often it happens.
How does this manifest in life
Everyone sees help in their own way. It only says that everyone has different opportunities. Someone says that this is financial assistance equal to the price of a bar of chocolate, it can’t afford, but if a person has all the money at the moment and he needs it, for example, for travel, then it will be detrimental to him if he gives this amount.
For another, it’s not a problem to set aside a couple of hours of time a week to help someone, and the other does not even have this time, because after work he prepares dinner for the family, and if he spends this time on another, there will be damage to the family. After all, there is no one to make up for it, and the other person will not come to prepare food. Therefore, all these things are very individual.
Everything is not in one comb
Often offenses can arise on this basis, because the asker sometimes simply cannot understand how they cannot help him in such a small amount, and does not take into account the real circumstances of the person whom he is addressing, believing that he is asking for all possible help. Synonyms of the word "feasible" - "commensurate with the capabilities" of a particular person, "light" and "elementary".
When a person performs something that is not difficult for him, it does not require that he give the last money or do something for others, but he does not have time. This applies not only to material issues, but also to the time costs of funds and forces. If health suffers, then this is an overwhelming help. When asked to bear the severity of someone who suffers from back pain, then he should not help just because to refuse is ugly. Instead, they may find someone stronger. And if the back problem is aggravated, then the asker will not heal him and will not take responsibility for it. But he simply brushes it off and says that it was necessary not to help, since there is a health problem.
The conclusion here is this: only the one who helps knows the current state of affairs and his abilities, and therefore he must assess how realistic it is to provide assistance without harming himself.
There are frequent cases when they do something for others at a loss to themselves at will. This is more true for relatives, often parents in relation to children. When they put off their important tasks in order to help children in some way, or, being sick and tired, do the work for them, because they love and pity them.
But if it’s not difficult to help, then why not? The world would be kinder if everyone did this.