Today, the look involuntarily lingers on stories involving men. Dad carries a stroller with a baby, a little girl runs towards dad, dad and his son go racing along a bicycle path. What a blessing that such fathers exist! Although sometimes they seem like an endangered species.
Is biology important?
Explanatory dictionaries say that a father is a man in relation to his children. However, is a man always a father to his children? The supply of biological material does not mean quality paternity.
A real father is first of all a close person, an older friend and adviser. He is close in any life situations. He is ready to lend a helping hand at any moment. Therefore, in this understanding, the functions of the pope can sometimes be performed by an older brother, grandfather, uncle, named father. The meaning of the word “named” speaks for itself. He was called the father. Or he called himself a father. He is not a dad genetically, but plays an important role in the formation and development of the family. Sometimes better than biological, loves, cares, provides and leads a family named father. The meaning of the word “father” is thus interpreted very broadly.
Father by calling
Each of the parents is responsible for a specific area of ​​education. Mom is everyday life, dad is holiday. For harmonious development, the child needs both weekdays and holidays.
Active paternity carries a strong masculinity, which is important for children of both sexes.
- For a boy, this is an introduction to men's society, an introduction to “men's affairs”, a role model, and adoption of his father’s interests and inclinations.
- For a girl, this is the standard of a man, an example of a male attitude to a woman, security.
Men offer their children a different vision of the world than women. And whoever takes this role - the guardian, father, elder brother - male education carries a special meaning.
Dad can do anything ...
Only he cannot be a mother, is sung in a children's song. And this is true. It is wrong to think that a father is needed only after five years. Relationship with it originates in the period of intrauterine development. After the baby is born, dad can do everything the same as mom, except for breastfeeding. Who said that his father is not able to change the diaper or ride a stroller in the park? Shake the baby, read a book, sing a song? Let this song be not my mother’s lullaby, but a composition of the Lyube group, but it will be my father’s care for the baby, which, as the child grows and develops, will turn into father’s upbringing.
"Ministry of Foreign Affairs"
If you imagine the family as a small state, then mom is the Ministry of the Interior. She sets the daily routine, diet and rituals around the hearth.
Dad is the ministry of foreign affairs. He is responsible for communication with the outside world, brings the child to people, helps to navigate outside the family circle. In all matters aimed at the result, the father is the most important mentor: the importance of active fatherhood cannot be overestimated!
Dad even plays with children differently than mom. In the game, he is a senior comrade, not a parent, he is more active, he is imbued with the spirit of the game. Often children, growing up, remember some moments of communication with dad more than classes with mom. Because games with dad are filled with vivid emotions and impressions for a long time.
The father contributes to a bolder knowledge of the world, active psychomotor development, he awakens creativity and imagination.
Exemplar
The father, as an educator, must meet certain conditions and be a model for the child. As you know, there is active and passive education. The first involves performing actions, the second means demonstrating one's own behavior. Passive supports the active, complements it.
In this aspect, the named father can naturally become a model. The meaning of the word “sample” suggests an example to follow.
So, the failed teacher will be the father who, by prohibiting his son from playing computer games, plays them himself in front of the child.
At first, the children think that dad cannot do wrong. Growing up and seeing the difference between word and deed, the guys are disappointed, the father loses authority. It is proved that children who have grown up without the authority of a father are more prone to antisocial behavior, disrespect for adults, and even more to offenses and even crimes.
Sons quickly adopt a fatherly model of behavior. In boys showing a very strong attachment to their father, copying behavior can take the most extreme forms. Up to the point that young children take off their hat on the street in February frosts only because dad is without a hat. Punishing a baby for this means not recognizing his right to imitate his father. Better dad wear a hat.
The daughter does not imitate dad, however, on the basis of daddy’s behavior, she makes an opinion about men in this world, compiles the image of the “right” man and uses these observations later in adulthood. If the girl was brought up by a worthy father, her husband will definitely be reminded of dad by something.
Power structure
If mother’s upbringing is more emotional, it is aimed at the process itself, then dad’s more demanding, logical and principled, aimed at the result.
Daddy's word, and sometimes even his eyes are disciplined. Dad is more strict because he is less prone to emotions. Dad is demanding and less flexible than mom. In many families, the pope is a punishing authority and, as a rule, has more authority than the mother. But mothers should not be offended, because having a greater authority, the father also bears a great responsibility. Papa is associated with power and authority, and it is papa, leading the child into the world around him, called to protect him from this very world.
A child for whom dad is a close person will come and tell about troubles and offenders. Father will teach you how to overcome fear, achieve the necessary physical fitness, tie a knot in the sea or put a block on karate. Moreover, in no case will he allow ridicule or derogatory phrases addressed to the child. Taunts can be the reason for low self-esteem, as well as the distance of the baby from the father, the appearance of unwillingness to share problems more.
Sculptor of a happy mom
They say that the best a father can give his children is to love their mother. Perhaps you can’t but agree, because love for a woman means being involved in a family, a desire is nearby and looking for a compromise in the difficult task of educating the future generation. And it is not so important whether the biological or named father loves mother - the meaning of the word “love” does not change.