Each of us at least once in a life faced rudeness. No one is safe from this: they can rude you in line for bread, in crowded public transport or from a car that cut you. We are indignant: "Wow, what a boor!" And what do people usually put in this word? What is its true meaning?
Ham (or rudeness) is a universal phenomenon. You often come across this when you come to solve a problem at a government agency. One gets the impression that every second official is a boor, and that this is one of the main requirements when applying for a job in the state apparatus. Most decent people are lost before the pressure of such a person, sometimes not knowing how to respond to the inadequacy facing them, so as not to lose their own face. Let's try to deal with this social phenomenon in order to be ready to give a fitting rebuff.
Who is a boor?
First, find out the origin of the word "boor". What does it mean, where did it come from? Let's open the Dahl dictionary. It says that the boor is a swearing nickname of serfs, servants, footmen, serfs. And in fact, before the nobility considered itself much higher than ordinary people. In fact, many nobles looked at serfs as cattle. Although, to be honest, often it was the other way around. Many nobles behaved like real boors, and peasants were a model of morality. Although there were exceptions.
Now we open Ozhegov’s dictionary and read: a boor is a person who is distinguished by rudeness and ignorance. This definition is already closer to the modern understanding of the term. Although the meaning of the word "boor" by Dahl can not be called obsolete. Just the meaning is a little transformed. Now our society is split into two parts: small - these are oligarchs who position themselves as an elite; and the big one is ordinary people. In fact, nothing has changed: the "money bags", and especially their offspring ("golden youth"), who themselves have not achieved anything in life and live on everything ready, just like many years ago, consider that ordinary a man is a boor, cattle and so on. However, the attitude of the rich to the poor is the topic of another article, so we will not focus on this. Well, the etymology of the word "boor" is clear, now we turn to the consideration of the concept in the well-known sense.
And for this, let's figure out how else you can call a person who is different in similar behavior, in other words, try to find a synonym for the word "boor". Knowing the encyclopedic definition of this concept, it is easy to do. So, a boor is a rude, impudent, insolent, dork, ignoramus, hamlo.
Computer troll
Computer boor - a kind of arrogant and rude. Distinguishes him from the "classic" boorish cowardice. A computer troll is hiding behind a monitor; it is many kilometers away from its victim and therefore feels completely safe. As a result, such an individual fully opens up and pours whole tubs of slops onto his opponent. Often the troll is not even aware of the topic discussed at the forum, he will never read the author’s article, but the first one will write a comment full of poison and dirt. This is his finest hour, he receives indescribable pleasure.
Introduction to Hamovology
Agree, it’s quite difficult to communicate with such people. How to resist their pressure, how to protect yourself from the malice of such a person and at the same time remain in a good mood? In the modern world, there are a lot of varieties of boors. There have even appeared experts such as “Hamologists,” who are trying to create their own classifications. Despite the differences between the rude, in their behavior there are some common signs by which it is possible to determine who is standing in front of us. What are they like?
Typical signs of a boor
His speech can tell a lot about a person. So, the boor primarily gives out an abundance of boastful statements. He constantly challenges the people around him! In the speech of the boor there is constantly arrogance, even arrogance. He speaks contemptuously about his rivals. Often in conversation he uses abusive and indecent expressions, familiarity, flat jokes, the appeal to "you". Also for the boors is the denial of any social norms, they consider themselves higher, despise any rules, except their own. And at the same time, such a person ostentatiously rants about the human rights that the "rival" allegedly violated, about dignity and honor. And this despite the fact that he himself is absolutely alien to these concepts. The boor is always selfish, therefore he is able to defend only his "honor". These people are characterized by demonstrative behavior, they are always important and demonstrate it with all their looks. Having heard about the emergence of a new "rival", they are always excited, impatient and eager to fight. Their behavior strongly resembles the habits of a cocky cock.
What is this for?
Normally, this may seem wild to a person, but with the help of rudeness, individuals satisfy some of their basic needs. If you accidentally step on your foot in public transport or push another passenger, then most often the victim reacts adequately - accepts an apology or does not pay attention to it at all. This means that there are still a lot of normal people. But if you come across a boor, then one such person is able to spoil the mood of all passengers. Why is he doing this? If we analyze such scandalous cases, as well as their results, it will become obvious that we are not talking about any protection of interests. A true boor does this out of love for the process. However, he achieves several goals. Let's consider them in more detail.
Boorish benefits
1. First of all, this is the need for communication. A boor is often a very limited person with no intellectual interests. However, he needs communication, even at the primitive level of "trolleybus disassembly". The main thing is that for a while spiritual emptiness is filled. Any person needs emotional contact. It’s difficult for the ham to attract the interlocutor’s attention by intellectual conversation, so he uses the weapons that are available to him - screaming, scolding, insults and more.
2. The need for recognition. In a normal everyday situation, it is difficult for a hammu to gain approval because of a limited intellectual resource. But in the scandal, he bathes in the attention of others, even if it is illusory. In a conflict, they talk to him, look at him, which means they recognize him. In such a situation, the boor feels that he is not an “empty place”.
3. Ostentatious own superiority. In reality, the boor has a very low self-esteem. At heart, he is always dissatisfied with himself. In life, he achieved little. The abundance of complexes and low self-esteem prevent adequate communication with people. And if the inferiority complex is combined with ignorance, then there is no other way than rudeness. For such an individual, it is important to demonstrate that he is stronger, better than others, even in a quarrel. And if such a person holds a high post, this does not mean that his self-esteem is high. Most likely, he is aware of his limitations, insolvency and does not see any prospects. Therefore, in order to show his own superiority, the boor tries to humiliate the "opponent". This is the main goal.
This can and should be fought
Let's figure out how to answer the boor and not lose your face. There are several options for responding to attacks by such individuals.
1. The simplest solution is to use the principle of "an eye for an eye", that is, to overdo the cad. You can resort to this method only if you are confident in yourself and ready to enter into a verbal skirmish. In this case, you deprive the lout of a sense of self-superiority, stun him with his own weapon. However, this is far from the best way, because you yourself will become like him, and this does not paint you. We should not forget that in front of you is a flawed person, he is already punished, and he has to live with it. In addition, you need to understand that such a development can turn into assault.
2. The next scenario is to ignore his attacks and unflattering remarks. However, this method will be valid only if you do it sincerely. If you can look boorish in the eyes and see an empty place or a wall, if you do not change your face, then this will be an absolute weapon. In this case, he will choke on his own bile, and you will remain the winner.
3. The way to avoid conflict. Do not succumb to emotions, treat the boor as a trader or a preacher. Show that you are not interested. Not meeting the expected reaction, the person programmed for the conflict immediately switches over, and bewilderment remains in his soul, because the usual program did not work.
4. This way usually goes those who turn enemies into friends. To do this, you need to realize how unhappy a person is trying to hurt you. It is necessary to treat the boor with sincere love. Very difficult, but possible.
Boors on the road
In modern Russia, a new type of rudeness has appeared - an arrogant driver. Taking advantage of impunity from law enforcement agencies, some wealthy and powerful car enthusiasts imagined themselves to be almost kings. They do not follow the rules of the road, do not let pedestrians pass, pass a red light, “cut” other drivers, park on the sidewalks. Today, such behavior is becoming widespread, but any action causes opposition. And now in Russia there was a public organization that calls itself "Stopham."
These people, having met a driver who cynically violates traffic rules, glue a sticker with the words "Stopham" on the windshield of his car. At the same time, they shoot a "star" in the video so that everyone can enjoy it in "YouTube". After all, the country must know its “heroes" in person.
Conclusion
This article cannot be considered complete unless we mention one more fact - biblical. The widely advertised Christian righteous Noah (the one who was saved during the Great Flood) once, not calculating his strength, fell asleep in his tent.
And now, to his misfortune, the son of Noah Ham looked for some reason into the tent and saw his father - we quote - "drunk and naked." No, to keep quiet, so he went and told his brothers what he had seen, and those - like faithful sons - told father about this in the morning. As a result, the righteous Noah cursed Ham. Here is such a strange act, but not for us to judge him. After all, Noah is righteous, and who are we? ..