Communicativeness is the interaction of people in the process of communication, based on the exchange of information. This is not only speech addressed to a specific person, but also listening. A type of communicative communication is also written speech and reading, when the author and the reader "communicate" autonomously, without direct contact. In the process of such communication, the information receiving party is also actively involved in the process, as in live communication, it perceives the text not only at the familiarization level. The reader reacts to what he reads with emotions, can empathize with the author, resent, not agreeing with the author's point of view or manner of writing.
The type of communication is also non-verbal impact and reaction. When you say something to your interlocutor or speak as a listener, you show each other certain gestures, and facial expressions indicate the feeling experienced at that moment.
Communication is the main need of society
Communicativeness and communication are an integral part of the social interaction that every rational creature needs. It is difficult to imagine a person who would like to spend his whole life alone. Communication is one of the basic needs of people, through others we learn the world, gain experience. The choice of the environment with which communication is built directly affects the lifestyle. By the person with whom a person communicates, one can judge the different sides of his personality.
Success formula
The book by Dale Carnegie “How to Make Friends and Influence People” in an accessible and fascinating way reveals the main principle of communication - the ability not only to speak but also to listen. The formula of success dictated by the famous author is based on empathy and attention to other people's needs. This tactic helps to quickly attract an opponent.
Most of us are eager and long willing to talk about ourselves, forgetting everything in a stream of words. Carnegie proposes to build a dialogue so as to consolidate the main role for the interlocutor, with a sincere interest to emphasize the value of his judgments and feelings. Correctly built communicativeness is first of all a mutually pleasant connection.
Sociability
Communicativeness is inextricably linked with the development of sociability. What is the difference? If the first term includes communication components (speech, response to it, listening, etc.), then the second determines their quality. Communicativeness is a combination of communication methods, and sociability is their property, character.
Sociable - doesn't mean talkative
A characteristic of a sociable person will be ease of communication - such people do not claim leadership positions in the conversation, they keep on equal terms with the interlocutor. An outgoing person always has something to say, and most importantly - what to ask, but this does not mean that such a person is talkative. It does not happen “too much” and it is precisely the developed sense of proportion in their statements that distinguishes sociability from talkativeness.
The communication skills that he possesses make him sensitive to the needs of the situation. He equally easily enters into a dialogue with completely different people, maintaining a tone appropriate to the situation. An outgoing person is a talented diplomat who can smoothly and efficiently negotiate.
Such people are erudite and gladly use a complex of knowledge about culture and history in communication, adapt them to the interests of the audience.
Ways of developing communicative qualities
Communicativeness is a tool that requires continuous improvement. Communication skills can be developed, that is, if today you are afraid to enter into a dialogue and think that you do not know how to communicate, work on yourself. Everyone is able to learn to be an active and pleasant conversationalist.
To do this, it is important to apply a simple set of rules aimed at developing communication.
- We leave the comfort zone. Do not be afraid to enrich your life with new acquaintances just because, as you think, you will not be accepted by society. Be friendly and confident. Throw away unnecessary excitement and believe me - everything is going well.
- Seek the good. The most difficult person to communicate with or unpleasant for you cannot be absolutely bad and have no virtues. Strive to find the best in people. Desire to see the interlocutor from his best side.
- Be lenient with other people's flaws. Before you blame anyone, try putting yourself in his place. Nobody is perfect. You including.
- Take the initiative. Faced with a stranger, do not rush to run away. Speak with him first. Although the greeting and your question are not original, but the next time you see it again, it will be much easier for you to start a conversation. Most likely, you will not have to do this at all, and your friend will decide to come up to you yourself!
Love people, open for communication. Who knows, maybe today's casual acquaintance tomorrow will be your best friend, support and shield for you?