What is joy? Probably, this question excites people because we, for the most part, forgot when we were really happy for the last time. Or we remember, but our emotion at that moment was fleeting, it was a long time ago. Today this routine consumed this feeling . And periodic attempts to rejoice do not bring a feeling of deep satisfaction.
What is joy?
We eat a piece of cake and we want to eat more. After eating, we often feel heaviness and disappointment in ourselves, that again we could not resist, broke, overeat. In search of vivid emotions, we start a random relationship, but it often just devastates us, does not bring us anything new, good. And we are looking for a new relationship. And so in everything. We need to stimulate ourselves again and again, because it seems to us that joy is momentary pleasures. But is it?
What does science say?
Turning to Ushakov’s explanatory dictionary, we can learn that joy is a feeling of pleasure, satisfaction, and a cheerful mood.
A synonym for the word joy is "delight." We rejoice when we receive something. When we have something. A synonym for joy is also "satisfaction."
Is this sensation fleeting or does a person experience it for a long time? You can argue: is joy a feeling or emotion? That is, whether we rejoice in relation to the situation as a whole or whether we experience it in relation to a certain person, object. Some call joy "feeling." Others say it is "emotion." In fact, this is not so important.
The important thing is that a joyful person can turn mountains. He can do everything. When we experience joy, it is easier for us to work and we live more pleasantly, and even with others we can share a good mood.
Joy as an invention of marketers
We live in a world of excess production and consumption. Every day from computer screens and TVs, advertising posters we are offered hundreds of reasons to rejoice. Women will undoubtedly be delighted by buying another new lipstick or visiting a luxurious spa, and men will be pleased with modern spinning or tickets for a football match involving their favorite team. And, of course, everyone, both children and adults, will enjoy a delicious chocolate cake from a trusted manufacturer! Oh yes! We absolutely must take super effective multivitamins and drink yogurt in the morning to normalize digestion. And the joy will come!
We spend money in order to experience vivid emotions. And unfortunately, we often find ourselves with an empty wallet. And devastated internally.
The truth is that if we do not feel joy from our daily lives, our tortured holidays and weekends will also be joyless - we will suffer from a hangover, indigestion, torment ourselves with thoughts about wasted money ... It turns out that joy is it a passing emotion? Is she fleeting?
Joy in another person
As well as the inventions of the ubiquitous marketers, we absorb what they impose on us a variety of television series, shows, books. For example, many people think that we can experience joy, happiness, love only when we have everything in order in our personal lives, when there is someone who pleases us. In fact, yes, personal life, communication with loved ones is great. But primary, nevertheless, is that joy that comes from ourselves, which we ourselves can share with other people. If we live only at the expense of the emotions that the other person gives us, this is a dependency, not a relationship, not love and not joy.
Cheerfulness
But who is such a cheerful person? One who knows how to find joy in the most ordinary everyday things, in the little things. One who sets important goals and stubbornly achieves them. One who knows how not only to take, but also to give something in return.
Revealing the meaning of the word joy, religion tells us that a person finds real joy when he is closer to God, visiting a temple, and doing great and small good deeds. Relations with God are everyone’s personal affair, but it’s true that selfish acts in the end do not make a person happy and joyful, bring only short-term satisfaction. But even the tiniest good deeds inspire us to continue to do good deeds further. We rejoice ourselves and sometimes receive a reward in the form of gratitude of other people, new acquaintances, reciprocal kindness.
Joy is the achievement of goals
As already mentioned above, joy is a fleeting emotion in the event that a person does not receive satisfaction from life as a whole. It just so happened that at the beginning of his life, a person is a blank sheet on which everyone writes. To a greater extent - parents, school, close friends. Environment. Sometimes our priorities turn out to be imposed on us by society. We supposedly have to study "perfectly" or excel in sports, or get married before twenty-five ... Must. And what do we really want? What will please us? Yes exactly. After all, life is a joy in itself. And if we are not happy, then something is wrong with our attitudes. So, this is not what we are striving for. Or, perhaps, we are not striving for anything at all.
Maybe it's time to set a goal, small, but ambitious? To make my eyes light up. Draw up a strategy for achievement and ... live, but rejoice.
Joy in the little things
Having set a goal and achieving it, do not forget to switch from time to time, to have a good and interesting rest. Gather new experiences. Do sport. Yoga, swimming, running, a skating rink always please ... Engage in creativity.
Plan joyful events, write down all your plans and strategies in a diary and strictly adhere to them. Do not neglect the little things.
You can be happy about what is around: good weather or bad (because you can wrap yourself in a blanket, drink a cup of delicious hot chocolate or mulled wine, watch your favorite movie), close people: your children, friends, those who are near you and those who long away.
Attend various interesting events, meet new people.
Give thanks. Each day, you can find five minutes to simply thank life for what it gives you, over a cup of tea. Say something nice to your loved ones.
Little things are important, but, of course, without a planned movement forward in life, the implementation of their plans, joy will be incomplete. It is necessary not only to receive, but also to give. Then your life will be bright, fulfilled and joyful.