It just so happened that most modern girls are sure that it is easiest to keep a man by pregnancy, the birth of a child.
"There is no going anywhere, falling in love and getting married," - that’s how they reason, and this often leads to rash acts and hasty decisions on the part of naive and frivolous ladies.
The real problem is to keep the husband, the person with whom much connects and life is already established, there is a family. As a rule, before marriage, couples worry and cherish each other's feelings, trying to please the partner and maintain interest in him. After registering a relationship, both relax. They are sure that feelings and love will not go anywhere, and there is no sense in straining, since the main goal has been achieved - an official union has been concluded, a mutual promise of fidelity has already been given. Why spend energy on winning a partner who is already rightfully yours?
There are three secrets that will help maintain relationships and keep your loved one.
Caring for the little things
We stop doing the simplest and most necessary things not because love is dying away, but because we are starting to be lazy. Creating home comfort, small but sweet common traditions is also a concern. Therefore, do not forget to show it in the details, make pleasant surprises.
Sophia Loren once said a very good phrase: “There is no better love potion than regular coffee brewed with your own hands. When a man tries it, he will not go anywhere. ” And this applies not only to coffee! Many things acquire a completely unique taste and give a lot more heat if made with their own hands. No fashionable scarf will warm you like the one that was associated with love and presented to us by a loved one.
Give your husband a feeling of warmth in a relationship, try not to allow the accumulation of grievances and omissions.
Work on yourself
Another common occurrence is the complete dissolution of a woman in her man, children or household chores. At such moments, she completely forgets about her hobbies, interests and development, ceases to be interesting. Your daily duties will not go anywhere, they will always be with you, learn to find time for yourself, it is very important.
You always need to communicate and develop together. If one of the partners outgrows the other, then such an alliance is doomed in most cases. Try to stay interesting, do not give up your favorite activities, be the person you want to be near.
freedom
No need to try to completely control your man, re-educate him and impose his point of view in everything from buying a tile for the kitchen to choosing a car.
Each of us needs a certain freedom, in our own personal space, there is no escape from this. From love and relationships, which occupy absolutely all of your free time, you get tired very quickly. It is in such relationships that husbands hide in a garage or bar.
Therefore, try to rest more often from each other, learn to trust your partner and do not arrange total control by phone. This only exacerbates fatigue and a desire to distance oneself from a woman.
If the question "got an edge"?
And it's not just about easy coolness in a relationship, but about a real battle for a husband with a rival? It is worth a thousand times to think about whether to hold it.
There is an old Native American proverb that teaches you to stop in time: "The horse is dead - cry."
This suggests that you do not need to try to reanimate a dead horse, it is useless. The only right decision would be to leave her alone. As a rule, if a woman has already once forgiven treason, then adultery is likely to happen again. It is only a matter of time. You can’t get away from the truth, treason really often happens precisely from the male side, but this is not a reason to accept it as a completely normal phenomenon.
Is it worth it to save the family at all? Can you regain trust in a relationship?
In such a situation, there are always more questions than answers. It is important to remember that there are no two absolutely identical families, nor two identical cases. There is always a flip side to treason - its causes. Why did it happen? What was the reason?
It is not always possible for couples to figure this out even with an experienced psychologist.
Therefore, try from the very beginning to protect the love that unites you. The best way to keep your loved one close is to make sure that he doesn’t want to leave.