Before reaching the age of three, children spend most of their time with their mother. It is parents who are involved in this period in the education of future members of society. When the baby goes to kindergarten, educators come to the aid of mom and dad. In the school period, teachers play an important role. From the correct interaction of the parties depends on how a person grows, how he will relate to others. Talking with parents is an important form of interaction that helps identify problems in the family. Together with a teacher or psychologist, mom and dad do everything for the normal development of the child.
Adaptation to kindergarten
A visit to the kindergarten is a new and rather difficult stage in the life of the baby and his parents. The further development and communication with peers depends on how well the child goes through the period of adaptation. Therefore, the first conversation with parents in kindergarten should affect the preparation of the baby for a future visit to a preschool institution. Educators and psychologists should meet with their mothers and fathers a few months before the child begins to go to kindergarten.
Initially, preschool teachers should find out how independent the baby is. In the nursery group, the child should already go to the potty, be able to hold a spoon. By the age of three, not all children can speak. But to master the basic skills is the task of the parents. That is why the conversation with parents in kindergarten is carried out in advance. If the baby still does not know how to use the toilet or can not eat on his own, mother should teach him.
Of great importance is also psychological preparation. The child must know what institution he will attend. Psychologists advise introducing the baby to kindergarten in advance. You can come to the site in a preschool, spend some time here with older children. Parents should also talk with their children. Moms should tell how the day of the child will be built, when he begins to attend kindergarten. Do not hide the fact that the baby will spend time in the institution without a mother.
Parent Mistakes
Some babies quickly enough adapt to a preschool, while others cry throughout the year only after hearing the phrase “kindergarten”. And all because in the second case, parents make a number of mistakes during the period of adaptation of the child to a new life. Conversations with parents in the preschool educational institution must necessarily touch on topics related to the regimen of the baby's day. If a child is used to going to bed at 23:00 and getting up at 10:00, it will be quite difficult for him to change his mind. With an early rise, the baby will be capricious, and a trip to the garden will be associated with real hard labor. It is necessary for a future pupil of a preschool institution to set the daily regime in a few months.
Quick fees are another mistake of modern parents. Moms believe that they are doing the right thing if they give the baby the opportunity to sleep a little longer in the morning. However, most kindergartens must arrive by 9:00 in the morning. As a result, you have to hurry to dress the child. Not only the baby is nervous, but also the mother. At the same time, there is absolutely no time left for the tenderness, which is so necessary for the child before parting with his parents for the whole day.
During conversations with parents, psychologists recommend that more time be devoted to the child in the morning. This allows you to recharge your batteries for the whole day, both for the baby and mom. Tenderness is an important element in the harmonious development of personality.
Work with dysfunctional families
Families with low social status, whose adult members for a number of reasons do not cope with their duties, are considered dysfunctional. In such cases, children are primarily affected. If such a baby begins to attend a preschool, he can be easily identified among the rest. The child is untidy, has an ultrahigh appetite, is asocial. Often, such children are several steps behind in development, do not show independence skills, do not know how to talk.
There are several methods of influence on moms and dads who do poorly with their duties. Not only teachers of a preschool institution enter the work, but also social services. Talking with dysfunctional parents is an effective method of influence. Initially, specialists promote family values and a healthy lifestyle. Surely dysfunctional parents are told what the further neglect of the normal development of the child can lead to. If such conversations do not give a positive result, “bad” mothers and fathers are sent for compulsory treatment for drug addiction and alcoholism, if such problems exist. The last point is the deprivation of parental rights.
Often there are situations when parents lead a healthy lifestyle, but due to circumstances and financial situation, they cannot give the child a full education. Initially, teachers and psychologists of the preschool institution need to find out what position the family is in. The conversation with parents should be conducted in a pleasant environment. This is the only way mom can trust a psychologist. There are no hopeless situations. The specialist will tell you how to improve your financial situation. The law of the Russian Federation provides assistance to low-income families. In addition, benefits may be granted to parents.
Child goes to school
When the baby crosses the six-year boundary, a number of new problems appear. The child begins to actively prepare for learning at school. And here, talking with parents is of great importance. The psychologist tells you what points you should pay attention to first of all. Many people mistakenly believe that before going to first grade, a child must learn to write and count. In fact, these skills are not so important. Everything will be able to learn at school. But psychological readiness plays a rather important role. Coming to first grade, the baby should be diligent, attentive. Respect for the teacher matters. The child should know who to turn to for help if necessary.
As a rule, a conversation with the parents of the younger group of the kindergarten affects the aspects of independence. At school, the child must know how to properly use the toilet, where to wash his hands and how to hold a spoon. However, if parents made mistakes in the past, the baby may not have elementary skills in the first grade. Especially often this situation happens when the child did not attend preschool. Therefore, a conversation with the parents of future first-graders should also touch on aspects of independence.
The right motivation to study is the key to success. The child should not be interested in a new toy or a trip to the circus, but in obtaining interesting knowledge. A conversation between a psychologist and parents should address the topic of motivating children before attending school. The specialist will tell you what mom and dad need to do so that the child happily goes to first grade. And a huge role is played by pre-school education. Parents should know in advance what kind of training program is provided. The kid will be bored, interest will be lost if he will be able to do more than his classmates.
Assistance in preparing homework
As mentioned above, independence is the key to success. Experts talk about this with parents in kindergarten and elementary school. If you teach your child self-reliance skills at an early stage, it will be much easier for him in the future. Of great importance here is the proper preparation of homework. It is quite difficult for a kid who had practically no duties yesterday to get used to daily homework. The correct behavior of parents plays an important role. Motivation will help to accustom the baby to new responsibilities.
Psychologists say that children cope better with any tasks in the daytime. Therefore, the preparation of lessons should not be left for the evening. In addition, if you do everything in a timely manner, you can manage to take a walk with friends or go to the attractions in the park. This is one of the elements of motivation. Do not forget about the marks. If you do your homework well, you will be able to get the coveted five. And this is an opportunity to stand out, to be the best students in the class.
In the initial stages, mothers help the child do homework. The kid will not be able to cope on his own. If everything is left to chance, the child will begin to lag. As a result, interest in learning will disappear altogether. The conversation with parents in the first grade should touch on the topic “How to teach lessons with a child?”. Mom and dad should be patient. Have to spend several hours studying. In no case can you do homework for a little student!
If the child is unsure of himself
As a rule, by the third grade, children are already divided into interest groups at school. Teachers can easily identify leaders or, conversely, insecure guys. Some children may not have friends at all, they are lonely and withdrawn in themselves. Such guys often lag behind in their studies. To clarify the situation, the teacher first of all conducts a conversation with parents. Family is an indicator. If there are problems (for example, parents divorce), the child will suffer first.
The teacher should delicately find out from his parents what the situation is at home. A teacher or psychologist tells how a child behaves in school walls. Adults find a solution together. There may also be a situation where everything is in order at home, but in the classroom the child remains closed. This may be due to the rejection of the baby in the team. Perhaps the little student has bad character traits (greed, cunning, selfishness) that prevent him from finding friends. You will also have to deal with such problems by interacting with your parents. In childhood, the authority of moms and dads is in babies. They then will be able to explain what to do is not worth it.
Conversation with parents of difficult children
The older the child becomes, the more problems may arise in his upbringing. Just yesterday, a cute girl with bows, today - a sullen teenager who knows a lot of bad words and refuses to fulfill requests. Why are children changing so dramatically? Psychologists claim that individual conversations with parents will help to solve the problem. To find the answers, you have to dig deep enough. In childhood, a person absorbs into himself, like a sponge, not only good, but also bad. If in the past the family had to go through a difficult period, it is possible that this will affect the behavior of the child in the future.
A separate category includes adolescents from dysfunctional families. Most often these are children whose mothers and fathers are not involved in raising them at all. The guys are looking for attention on the side, have early sexual contact. Conversations with dysfunctional parents are simply necessary. If you do not solve problems in a timely manner, the life of a teenager will be ruined. Attention and love are what parents should give their children. In this direction, and should be a conversation with a psychologist.
High School Psychology
The guys who are studying in high school are adults, mature personalities. The interaction of parents with adolescents has a number of nuances. The future position of the student in society depends on how mum and dad behave correctly. The psychologist should have a conversation with the parents “Child and Parent”. An important element of a relationship with a student is trust. If everything is done correctly, the guys will tell their parents about their joys and failures. Moms and dads, in turn, will be able to direct the energy of their son or daughter in the right direction. Thus, it will be possible to avoid getting the child into a bad company, early pregnancy.
Conversations with parents at the school should be held individually. At general meetings, only general problems (academic performance, future events) can be addressed. To solve individual issues, the psychologist will have to make an appointment additionally.
Gifted children deserve special attention. The teacher should also have a conversation with the parents of such children. Often, mothers and fathers do not notice the talents of their children, sending them to learn a profession that is uninteresting for the child. As a result, a high school student becomes disillusioned with his parents and misses the opportunity to develop in his chosen direction. Moms and dads should perceive their children as adult participants in society. They are entitled to choose their own life path.
Career guidance
Conscious choice of profession - success in the future. Psychologists believe that a person should work in an area that is of great interest. So it will be possible to obtain a stable income and grow professionally. As long as a member of the society is not an adult, parents make decisions for him. Unfortunately, it often happens that moms and dads try to realize their ambitions through a child. Parents argue that you need to go to study as a lawyer, journalist or dentist just because it is prestigious. At the same time, the interests of the child himself are completely ignored.
When it comes to career counseling, the timely conversation of teachers with parents of high school students is of great importance. Specialists urge mothers and fathers not to interfere with children making their own choices. Parents can only help with unobtrusive advice. And in order to quickly determine, the guys in the educational institution can take a special test for career guidance. It is advisable to do this in grade 9, so that the child still has time in order to deliberately make a decision.
Summarize
Preventive discussions with parents should be carried out at any age stage. The more closely teachers will interact with mothers and fathers, the better will be able to establish the process of raising children. When planning a conversation, the teacher should clarify when it will be convenient for parents to visit the educational institution. A number of issues can be considered at the general meeting. Some problems are solved only individually.
Of particular note are conversations with dysfunctional parents. Such moms and dads often refuse to attend school at all. In this case, employees of social services are involved. The conversation can be held at home forcibly. If the recommendations of the teacher and psychologist are ignored, the question arises of the deprivation of parental rights.