Anyone who wants to integrate into society needs to know a diverse set of actions from an area called social behavior. In addition, it is not enough just to be informed, you also need to constantly monitor the thorough execution of what is prescribed.
The body of these rituals is called decency. Accordingly, one who does not pay attention to this side of everyday life often gets the stigma of an indecent person.
The roots of decency are in the family
The first lessons in good manners are taught in the family. The child not only listens and remembers the instructions of adults. He also copies their own behavior, which is not always consistent with declarations. The family teaches its growing members:
- how to eat;
- how to care;
- observe mourning;
- Be considerate (that is, maintain a conversation that is friendly and critical, depending on the circumstances).
Observance of the rules of decency is nothing but decent behavior in society. It makes the impression made by man on others pleasant. In addition, communication built with these standards in mind will be more effective than otherwise.
The whole list is much longer
Here are just a few points from a fairly voluminous body of good manners:
- Anyone who enters a room where there are already other people is required to say hello first.
- If someone passes behind you at the door, then they must be held, and not thrown towards the other.
- Turn around if you shout from behind: “Hey, you!”, In no case be impossible, no matter how much you would like to. The rules of decency is strictly prohibited.
- Blowing your nose, coughing or sneezing in public should be as inconspicuous as possible and always have a handkerchief with you.
- Drinking through a straw from the bottom of the glass, making loud gurgling sounds, is the height of indecency.
- It is unacceptable to poke a finger pointing at a person. This happened from antiquity, when in many countries such a gesture was regarded as a symbolic threat, for example, with an arrow or spear.
- It is customary to throw garbage only in bins, but not on the ground.
- If you need to go in front of seated spectators or passengers, it is necessary to move, turning to face them.
This is only a small fraction of the norms, without observing which people often make the life of others uncomfortable.
From the history of etiquette
The way a particular society sees itself as appropriate, worthy is reflected in etiquette. The world owes this concept to Louis XIV, the French king. It was in his reign that the guests of the courtyard were given labels that spelled out in all the details how to behave in the presence of monarchs.
In Russia, a guide to the correct behavior in society appeared almost 500 years ago - this is the famous and already nominal “Domostroy”.
All new decency rules are born. This is due to the rapid entry into our lives of technology. Today, there are already a number of rules governing when you need to turn off the TV or where you can’t put your mobile phone in a public place. There are many useful tips on social media behavior.