Helpfulness, ingratiating, flattering before someone stronger, influential or wealthy because of a sense of fear or in favor of their own selfish goals causes a negative reaction in society. Moreover, people always at all times condemned the saints. So, in the topic of today's publication, we will consider that this is servility.
Meaning of the word
There are many synonyms for this word: "flattery", "assent", "sneakiness", "flattering", "servility", "servility", "groveling", "servility", "servility". According to the interpretation of the dictionary, servility is a servile desire to please someone. That is, such a person is excessively pleasing and flattering. This quality of personality is considered extremely negative, as it makes this person not only independent, but also helpless.
Where did the servility come from?
As you know, all human problems come from childhood. How is servility in a child formed? Such a person is called good-natured in the eye, but behind his back is considered spineless. Such children grow up in families where it was customary to hide their true feelings, especially negative ones. It was impossible to scream, demand, be indignant, angry, because the baby could be punished immediately for the manifestation of feelings. It could be a mother’s cold look and her complete disregard. And in order to get the love of a strict father or mother, the child needed to "buy" it. Price is a rejection of one’s own feelings and desires. There is only one requirement in such families, and this is the desire of an authoritarian adult. In childhood, they say to such a child: “You have done well, that you have given way,” “How can you ask me to buy a toy if I have a headache and I need medication.” And the goal of contacting the baby with the parent is to get approval.
Ladies' saints
There is such a category of men. A ladies man is not a Don Juan, not a playboy, not a womanizer, he is one who likes to care for women. He plays subtly and gracefully on women's feelings. This is a conqueror, he easily falls in love with women, he is always friendly, you can talk with him on any topic, he is caring, he knows how to listen and flirt beautifully. However, in this case, there is one “but”: such a man does not seek, with every woman he cares for, to have close and romantic relationships, and when a lady mistakenly takes his flattering servility for serious intentions, the ladies man is simply frightened and disappears from the field woman's view. Should I be offended by him? Of course not. He is what he is. He is just comfortable in such a pleasant atmosphere.