“Clear” ... It's just a word that means that the weather is good on the street or that it means that a person understands what his interlocutor is talking about. It’s rare for anyone to think that it can become a real killer. This is the main problem of rash word handling. Arguments that can confirm the existence of such a dilemma are difficult to count.
Caution - the word!
Classical literature, poetry, sayings, and modern books often raise the issue of rash word handling.
For clarity, it is worth giving an example from the text of S. Lvov. He talks about a woman who was injured by falling in a square in the city. To get first aid, she went to the nearest hospital. She is sent to the surgeon’s office from the admission department, but the doctor said that patients will only be admitted in half an hour, and impartially stated: “Leave the office”. The woman stepped out into the corridor and burst into tears.
At first glance, it seems that nothing happened, but an impartial order made the woman feel worthless. The doctor spoke to her as if it was not a man standing in front of him, but an annoying insect, from which there was enough dry order, not human participation.
Perhaps he did not realize that he was doing badly, but this is the problem of rash handling of the word. Arguments from literature do not exhaust themselves in the work of Turgenev's “Fathers and Sons”. Evgeny Bazarov has always belittled the people with whom he had to meet. It seemed to him that he was telling the truth about a man, but the way he presented it left an insult and pain in the hearts of his interlocutors.
Silence is gold
No wonder they say in the people: "The word is silver, and silence is gold." And let it be better unspoken and unheard than leave behind a bleeding wound. The problem of rash word handling is reflected even in proverbs:
- From the word salvation, from him also perdition.
- Watch the bread for lunch and the word in return.
- A word worse than an arrow hurts.
- One should not be afraid of the knife, but of the word.
- To catch a bird, they give it food to deceive a person, they offer him words.
- The aforesaid cannot be reversed.
- What is said rashly, like a shot without a sight, can miss, but it can also kill.
These sayings are only a small part of what the people have gained over the centuries. As you know, proverbs and sayings do not arise out of nowhere. They are a reflection of a person’s personal experience. Therefore, we can say with confidence that rash treatment of the word is a phenomenon that is often found in everyday life.
Daily routine
It is impossible to predict in advance when and where it will be necessary to get a “verbal slap in the face”. In life, the problem of rash word handling is so common that it is already taken for granted. More than once and twice, making a mistake when dialing a number, a person can hear an annoyed one: “There are none here!” or "Look where you are typing!". A trifle, but the mood spoils.
Not only rudeness can hurt, but also a word thrown by chance. The problem of rash handling of a word (arguments from life) does not pass by anyone.
For example, we can cite one case that occurred with the writer X in childhood. He was a physically fit boy and suffered greatly from the ridicule of his classmates. But the worst thing began when a well-known critic wrote a review in a local newspaper about his work, where he called the young talent a tongue-in-mouth fat man.
This nickname did not leave writer X all his school years. No matter how he tried to get rid of him, everything was in vain, because the critic’s statement turned out to be accurate and memorable, which, in fact, was used by his classmates.
And no matter how much time has passed, this story will not be forgotten until the end, because spoiled school years will forever remain in memory.
Health
Someone from the philosophers of antiquity assured that it is possible to treat a person not only with herbs, but also with a word. After all, the patient is inclined to believe what his doctor says, and how he says this directly affects the healing process.
The rash treatment of the word (arguments from medicine) can be seen in such an example.
The story happened in one of the Moscow surgery clinics. The doctor came to a patient who had a heart defect and talked about his illness. He drew a heart, marked four valves in it, and explained: “Three valves are not working for you, and the fourth’s productivity is only 10%. You will die one way or another. ” The patient's heart stopped a few hours later.
The doctor’s goal was to persuade the patient to have the operation, because if he didn’t do it, he would definitely die, only the problem of rash handling of the word (the arguments of which are presented above) showed itself in all its glory. The patient understood only that he was not a tenant, and not that he had a chance of recovery and a full life.
Problem
A. Chekhov, M. Gorky, B. Likhachev - it is possible to list the authors indefinitely, in whose works the problem of rash treatment of the word was raised. Arguments from books or from life have repeatedly confirmed that people carelessly about what they say.
But no matter how much this discussion takes place, it is rarely taken seriously. Only the person who suffered a verbal wound will forever remember this and will continue to monitor his conversation. But not everyone can be so noble. It also happens that a "wounded" person specifically tries to cheat others so that they experience the same pain.
How to deal with the problem?
There have never been, and probably never will be, effective recommendations for the proper handling of words. In this matter, everything depends on the person, his upbringing and level of development, and most importantly, on how happy he is. Unhappy people often try to “lure” others to their side.
In addition, in the era of technological development, people forgot how to express their feelings with words. Especially the younger generation. With the popularization of electronic gadgets, words gradually began to be forgotten. The communication of the younger generation is based on emoticons, gifs, pictures and, as they say now, “memes”. Even in a large company, a phone in hand and an open page on a social network are a mandatory attribute of communication.
Therefore, to get rid of the problem, you need to start with yourself. Keep track of your speech culture, learn to talk about what is of paramount importance, and not be afraid to express your emotions.
It’s much easier to hide behind the monitor screen and put a certain emoticon, and the hardest thing to show is in life. And words that are not backed up by appropriate emotions are often misunderstood. Even the simple word "clear" can turn into a serial killer, if you say it dryly and constantly put into conversation.