Many people think that feeling sorry is unacceptable, no one wants to be spared. But pity can still be healing. You only need to know how to regret. Pay attention, it was not for nothing that they said in ancient times: "He pity her - he loves her." If you feel sorry for yourself correctly, you will benefit from this.
Meaning of the word
The word “pity” can be used in two meanings. Firstly, it may be a feeling experienced by years gone by and youth. Secondly, compassion for a sick, weak, old person can be called that.
There is also such a thing as “self-pity”, which is perceived as a negative feeling that interferes with a person’s self-development. Pity is sometimes interpreted as a condescending attitude to the weaknesses of another person. For example, it may be a pity for a neighbor: he is a good man, but a bitter drunkard. It also happens that a not so smart young lady is sorry for a young man in love with her, and she marries him. Needless to say, what an unhappy future awaits this couple?
Pun
To regret is to respond emotionally to the helplessness of another. But there are significant differences. It is important to understand whether a living being needs your pity? This feeling is also caused by a homeless puppy, which is trailing after you on the street. He needs a warm home and your love and care. Pity causes a cripple, but maybe he doesn't want it? After all, he carefully adapts to the features of his condition, makes plans for the future and does not want to constantly remember the disease. Pity is caused by a boy who fell off his bicycle and cries bitterly, I want to hug, regret, calm.
This is a manifestation of compassion and understanding, which, nevertheless, can play a cruel joke on those whom you regret. For example, you will take a homeless puppy home, but will not love him, feed him well and take care of him. A fleeting sense of pity will adversely affect the life of the pet. Better give it in “good hands”, in the house where they are waiting for it and will be gladly accepted. And the manifestation of constant pity for the disabled person can lead to the fact that he will not adapt to new living conditions for him, will not seek work, will not seek education. You can also take a bike from a boy so that he does not fall anymore and does not cry, but is this right?
A fine line
Pity is a positive quality, but on the other hand, you need to be careful with it. After all, one needs to be pitied only once, and again he will be able to stand up. You will regret the other - he will lower his hands and stop fighting.
Gotta fall. But we must also rise. It is no coincidence that such a fine line between the concepts of “pity”, “miserable”, “pity” and “sting”. To regret is a recognition that a person is in trouble, this is a kind of inner point, an instant, but the very next moment it is worth considering how to help yourself.