Attraction is (in psychology) a complex and versatile concept. In short, it determines the sympathy of one person for another. Attraction is gravity, and mutual.
Psychological definition
Different sources give approximately the same interpretation of this concept, but they all mean approximately the same thing. Attraction is an expression of sympathy, a friendly type of communication, a manifestation of warm and friendly feelings. And the development of attractiveness occurs, as a rule, as a result of the emotional and somewhat specific relationship of one individual to another. Assessment of the sensations arising in this case among the participants in the communicative act gives rise to a huge gamut of feelings, shining with diversity. It can be anything, from ordinary human interest to love, which often quickly develops into love. And all these emotions are expressed in the special attitude of one person in relation to another.
Since the advent of psychology, specialists in this field of activity, together with sociologists, have studied the principle of the formation of attachments, as well as various feelings between people. As a result of various studies, the concept of "attraction" appeared, which later became an impetus for further study of people. The reasons for the appearance of sympathy are also of genuine interest , the circumstances under which this happened, the distance between them, how often opponents are seen, and much more.
Individuality is the determining factor
Why is one person perceived differently by different people? Someone might like him incredibly, and he would love to talk with him for hours on end. Another of this person simply does not tolerate the spirit and dreams of the disappearance of that of his life. It's all about personality. But not only that.
The first impression and opinion created on its basis is very important. Psychologists have proven that it is it that is the basis for building subsequent communication. In a few seconds you can understand whether there is a prospect for communication or not. And in most cases, the first opinion does not deceive people. Appearance, the smell of cologne, gestures, behavior, clothing, manners, intonation, look - all this forms the opinion of one opponent about another. All this shows a person as he is. Something, of course, can be hidden, but it’s impossible to keep track of all the little things. And if two people meet each other's standards, then the likelihood of sympathy or at least a desire to communicate is great.
Grammar
By the way, it should be noted that the attraction is also a turnover, which is expressed in the absence of a definite syntactic connection between one and the second members of the sentence. That is, with the subject could not be used with the nominal genitive. One of the most striking examples is a phrase that sounds like “killed by elephants”. It sounds strange, but at the time when the paratactic system dominated the language, it was normal. Nowadays, this proposal looks like this - "killed by the feet of elephants." The use of the genitive is visible. This is the specificity of the syntactic attraction.
Attraction Levels
Attraction is a rather detailed term in psychology, which includes several more. It is worth talking about her levels. There are only three distinguish - sympathy, friendship and love. As you can see, the levels are positive. There is no such thing as "hostility," for example. That's right, since an attraction is a manifestation of positive emotions. But the emotional hate rating begins to take shape if one individual, for some reason, begins to annoy another. Situations are different, and they are familiar to almost all of us.
Each level has its own characteristics. Sympathy, for example, is a manifestation of goodwill, courtesy, a desire to show attention, help or chat. Friendship is something more thorough, characterized by the emergence of a strong and stable attachment of one person to another. And finally, love. This is the highest degree of relationship. We should talk about it a little more.
Attraction in close relationships
Why does it happen this way: a guy got acquainted with several hundred girls, but they all rejected him, but at the sixty-ten he met the one who showed an incredible craving for close relations with him and, by a lucky coincidence, approached his parameters? Because it meets its standards. And she is his. She likes just such people. So all the previous girls had different tastes. And completely different ideas about interpersonal relationships. This is where the attraction manifests itself. This is just one case out of millions.
If we talk about close relationships, it is worth noting that everything plays a role here. Appearance, character, interests, outlook on life, goals. Interpersonal attraction is not just sympathy. It is also a social setting, formed on the basis of the analysis of the person with whom communication takes place, and everything connected with it. Let some people say that only appearance or character is important to them - this is only the first time it seems so. You need to remember such a thing as balance. It directly refers to the term "attraction". What is it? A harmonious combination of all personal and external qualities of a person. Everyone has their own taste, but all people want to have close relations with those who will look good, and have similar interests with their views, and their character is pleasant. Everyone has their own ideal. And each such image is perfection for a person who dreams of him in the subconscious. And sometimes in reality. Only often such people remain lonely, because it is rarely possible to find the ideal that they managed to draw in their imagination. Others, having long understood that perfection is unlikely to succeed, have already forgotten about these images and live happily with the person who may not be perfect in everything, but it was with him that everything worked out, and well.