Scientists all over the world have been studying the psychosomatics of childhood diseases for quite some time. Many studies have been devoted to this work, during which it was revealed that the atmosphere in the family has a great influence on the health status of a child . Psychosomatic factors often lie on the surface, but there are times when they are hidden quite deeply and require expert advice.
Louise Hay Book
One of the most famous authors of books on the psychosomatics of diseases is Louise Hay. This American writer devoted her life to the study of psychology, and in her writings she constantly says that physical illnesses have a direct connection with mental balance. Therefore, first of all, it is necessary to worry about him.
In order for the body to be healthy, it is enough to learn how to live in harmony with yourself, accepting all emotions and dissolving the negative in the soul. And since childhood illnesses arise from adult mistakes, this book will help parents understand exactly where they make a mistake. Moreover, this will not only provide prevention, but also cure existing ailments.
In her book on the psychosomatics of diseases, Louise Hay published a table listing the diseases and psychological causes that caused them. In the same place, the reader will be able to find a way to resolve the problem, and without medical intervention.
The most common psychosomatic illnesses
Some parents note that their child is often sick, and despite strict adherence to all the doctor’s prescriptions, they monitor their meals, try to be as few as possible in crowded places, etc. Even a specialist can’t say exactly why this happens. since in general (according to the results of the analyzes) the child is healthy. Parents, for their part, perceive this state of affairs as a real test, greatly experiencing and strengthening guardianship at the same time.
In this case, it may be precisely the psychosomatics of body diseases, which explains the occurrence of certain health problems without the presence of any pathology. Such diseases may well proceed easily and generally respond to treatment, but after a week or two they again attack the body. And this suggests that health is deteriorating not so much because of physiology, but as a result of a violation of the psychoemotional background.
Statistics show that the most common diseases are:
- bronchial asthma;
- diseases of the gastrointestinal tract;
- diseases of the cardiovascular system;
- diabetes;
- allergies
- vegetovascular dystonia.
Moreover, every year the psychosomatics of ailments and diseases are expanding their boundaries more and more, and the number of diseases diagnosed against this background is rapidly increasing. It is desirable to identify psychological problems as early as possible, since by the adolescence they are gaining full strength, and even those that by this time the child should have outgrown. It so happens that people no longer remember the psychological trauma itself inflicted on them in childhood, and the disease is also progressing.
Somatic factors
According to the psychosomatics of childhood diseases, they arise due to the fact that the child is not able to cope with negative emotions and, experiencing, he feels a great spiritual discomfort. At the same time, kids often do not even realize what exactly is happening to them - they simply cannot describe their feelings at the moment. Conscious perception of the world around us comes only in adolescence - at this time a person is already beginning to make tortures to sort out his problems and feelings.
Children in this regard are much more difficult. They feel only the pressure of a particular situation, dissatisfaction, but they cannot somehow influence the confluence of circumstances and relieve psychological stress. It is for this reason that psychosomatic disorders are rooted in early childhood. Constant depression is reflected at the physical level and leads to the development of diseases, often chronic. This condition gradually “eats” the child from the inside and deprives him of the joy of life.
If we talk about short-term illnesses, then they also arise against the background of mental problems. Symptoms of diseases appear only at a time when the child is intensely thinking about an unpleasant situation. For example, the baby flatly refuses to go to kindergarten, cries and is naughty. If this does not help, he begins to come up with reasons - a headache, stomachache, throat, etc. As a result, this manipulation transforms into a real disease - the child begins diarrhea, the throat becomes inflamed, a cough or runny nose appears.
It should be remembered that psychosomatic diseases usually appear in initially weakened organs. For example, one of the parents was diagnosed with bronchial asthma. A predisposition to it (not asthma itself!) Is often transmitted by inheritance, thus the lungs become a weak point in a child.
There are other factors that influence the development of a disease that has developed against the backdrop of psychological problems:
- complications, illnesses and injuries during pregnancy;
- disturbances in the central nervous system;
- the presence of staphylococcal infection, which was detected immediately after birth;
- hormonal or biochemical imbalance immediately after birth.
Psychosomatics and fetal development
If a woman experiences negative emotions during the period of bearing a child, then this can affect not only her psyche, but also the physical health of the unborn baby. From a scientific point of view, this is not exactly proven, but no one undertakes to deny this connection.
According to studies, children who were considered unwanted and negatively perceived by their mother were susceptible to various diseases and disorders at birth. If the future mother has a good positive attitude, she is supported by her husband and close people, then in such cases there is every chance that the formation of the fetus will proceed in normal mode.
When a woman feels love and understanding, then in relation to pregnancy, she shows only good emotions. This attitude is very important during the first days of a child’s life. Despite the fact that after birth he becomes a separate person, his connection with his parents remains as strong. Mom symbolizes his inner world, and therefore it is through her that he gets acquainted with the surrounding reality. The kid captures her reaction to a particular situation and subsequently reflects this model of behavior, absorbing both good emotions and excitement.
Bronchial asthma
One of the most common causes of bronchial asthma is lack of attention. And if immediately after birth the mother devotes extremely little time to her baby, then by the age of five (often earlier) this disease will manifest itself.
In dysfunctional families with an unhealthy atmosphere, children often suffer from a lack of attention. They try to influence the situation on their own, but to no avail. As a result, respiratory diseases develop. Asthmatics tend to deny, displace emotions and regression. To correct the situation, such children are recommended group lessons and trainings with a psychologist. In such groups, breathing exercises and autogenic training are performed. In this case, parents should analyze their attitude not only to the baby, but also to each other.
There is another reason. The psychosomatics of the disease can be associated with your constant presence near the child, and at the same time you demand too much from him or exert constant pressure, because of which the baby is not able to express itself, to be realized. Such factors prevent the child from expressing emotions, suppress his desires and intentions. Periodically, he feels bouts of suffocation - first on an emotional plane, and then on a physical level.
Kidney disease
The psychosomatics of kidney diseases is manifested by such pathologies:
- pyelonephritis;
- urolithiasis disease;
- pathology of the vessels of the kidneys;
- urinary tract infections.
Pyelonephritis usually develops amid dissatisfaction with their work. In this case, the child may experience negative emotions, such as fear and disgust during periods when his parents force him to do something. This usually refers to the desire to engage in its development early, when countless books and other similar materials are used. With constant denial, negative experiences can result in complete destruction of the renal pelvis. It happens as if patience is breaking.
Urolithiasis develops at a time when emotions do not find a way out or the child is undergoing prolonged stress. And if the baby is often held captive by negative feelings, they can pretty much crash into the subconscious and arise even in a calm environment, and the child himself will no longer be able to free his mind.
Considering the psychosomatics of kidney diseases, it should also be noted that the main cause of vascular pathology is prolonged depression. In this condition, the urinary organs suffer from insufficient blood supply. And if you notice that your baby is depressed, not active enough and generally behaves differently than usual, then this is an occasion to reflect on his condition and consult a psychologist - a specialist will help determine the psychosomatics of the disease.
Diseases of the urinary tract, especially of an infectious nature, can develop due to old grievances. Inability to forgive increases the tone of the kidney tissue, which is why the ureters experience a constant load.
Flat feet
Among leg diseases, psychosomatics most often has a connection with such a problem as flat feet. And the cause of the development of the disease becomes the atmosphere within the family, when the father is not willing or unable to be responsible, unable to solve financial and economic issues.
It also affects the behavior of the mother, who, looking at the head of the family, expresses his distrust to him. She cannot lean on him in difficult times and expresses disrespect. The child usually reacts unconsciously to the situation - he passes the unsolved tasks of the parents through himself and as a result begins to feel constant fatigue, exhaustion, and rapidly loses energy. He does not feel firm support, and this results in illness.
Arthritis
This joint tissue disease occurs in children who are used to hiding their feelings and suppressing emotions. They become closed and, as a rule, do not ask for help. In relation to himself, such a child can be cruel and, with external softness, manipulate others. If he wants something, then on an emotional level he brings himself literally into a frenzy. The line between "good" and "bad" does not exist for him. Moreover, girls often acquire a masculine character.
Such behavior is the result of tyranny on the part of the parents, which makes them slowly but surely plunge into themselves - emotions accumulate and pour into the disease. Such people, even in adulthood, do not show their true feelings. They can not clearly articulate their desires, do not know how to relax. Moreover, they are perfectly able to load themselves and create a lot of problems. Their own failures scare them very much, and constant doubts spin in their heads.
According to Louise Hay on the psychosomatics of joint diseases, arthritis develops against the background of constant condemnation. Since childhood, such people feel guilty, they are often punished, because of which they developed sacrifice and other negative emotions. In this case, faith in oneself and a manifestation of love for one's own person helps. It is important that parents realize this in time and try to give the child an understanding that he is loved no matter what.
Arthrosis
Psychosomatics interprets this joint disease as follows. Arthrosis develops when negative emotions are constantly directed towards others. And the reason lies in the lack of pleasant and kind feelings for loved ones, especially parents. Such a child is distinguished by increased vulnerability and treats all his mistakes as accidents, banal failures.
This suggests that the parents did not manage to instill a sense of responsibility for their child in due time, because of which he subsequently puts it on the shoulders of others and at the same time complains about them. At the same time, outwardly, a person can be infinitely sweet, but inside him constantly resents indignation and other negative emotions. He is no longer able to cope with an excess of sensations and at the same time is unable to throw them out in time.
The psychosomatics of childhood diseases explains that such babies often experienced stress, plunged into depressive states and felt nervous tension. This led to a lack of joint fluid, and the cartilage gradually began to fade.
Eye diseases
The psychosomatics of eye diseases is associated with several factors. First of all, it is sadness that has not completely poured out or is poured out too often. Also, the basis of such diseases is laid in those situations when a person since childhood sees only troubles and at the same time does not want to look at it anymore. And if the vision suddenly began to deteriorate, then this need became unbearable, and it was not possible to remove the stimulus from the field of view.
With a loss of vision, a person receives what he wants internally - he no longer sees. It turns out that his future life does not go the right way - instead of trying to get rid of the stimulus on his own, he sacrifices his own vision. A kind of compensation takes place, due to which the psychological experience is facilitated.
When a child from early childhood gets used to seeing the bad, he accustoms his mind and subconscious to negative visual experience. In his speech, phrases appear that are, to one degree or another, related to the reluctance to see something: “out of sight,” “I don’t want to see you,” etc. Thus, the psychosomatics of eye diseases in children is manifested by visual impairment with a minus sign , which characterizes diseases such as myopia and myopia.
Vision may be impaired due to the establishment of a compulsory border that the child chooses on an unconscious level. For example, some children are attracted to outdoor games, they are interested in toys, in a word, they are constantly in motion and show interest in the world. While others will only be interested in computer games or cartoons. In a word, they do not want to see real life and are trying to isolate themselves from it with a TV and a monitor. Thus, an obstacle is constantly present in front of their eyes, which does not allow to train their eyesight. And the longer it lasts, the worse it gets. And the child does not show any initiative in relation to real life, he simply does not want to see the bad anymore.
Often, the psychosomatics of eye diseases is associated with fear and rejection: among young people - the future, among older people - the past. The former are frightened by blurry perspectives, the latter can not forgive their sins and mentally constantly reproach themselves for their mistakes.
The book on the psychosomatics of diseases also says that our mind is one of the organs of vision, and therefore the style and type of thinking play a role in the development of eye diseases. During reading, dreams, we generate in our head pictures that are not real. Imagination in this period is able to overcome any distance and obstacles, running away from the moment here and now. After some time, physical vision becomes a rudimentary organ, which loses its primary purpose, and visual function is inhibited. While living in the present, spoiling your eyesight is very difficult.
The cardiovascular system
According to psychosomatics, such diseases are preceded by a lack of love. In this case, a person may consider himself unworthy of this feeling or deliberately avoid it. Outwardly, such people seem callous, reserved, but in fact they have a subtle soul.
In children, the reaction to close arises at times when they feel conflict situations and sharply react to scandals and quarrels between parents. Such a child also does not receive satisfaction from his own life; he believes that nobody needs him or, on the contrary, suffers from excessive guardianship. He is hostile towards others, since he cannot breathe quietly and constantly resists everything. As a result, he strains internally, contracts, cannot express his emotions, forming blocks and involuntarily straining the muscles of the whole body. The vessels that are nearby also experience pressure, which leads to poor circulation, hypoxia of cells and oxygen starvation of tissues. Useful substances come in very small quantities. This is what leads to heart disease in a child. Psychosomatics affects several diseases.
A constant negative that cannot be thrown out provokes the development of arterial hypertension. Such people have their habits and express their emotions in a special way. Scrolling through certain fears in the head, they are often aggressive, but they constantly suppress this feeling.
Myocardial infarction with subsequent death occurs due to constant experiences that occur against the background of emotional instability. It is important here to get rid of depression, anxiety, relieve stress and tension in a timely manner.
The psychosomatics of heart diseases occurs when a child is constantly in fear, he holds negative emotions and does not know how to let them go. In the future, panic attacks begin to occur, which leads to cardiac neurosis. This suggests that in childhood he did not feel love, he lacked real care, because of which he always felt annoyed. On this basis, an all-consuming feeling of guilt arose, provoking an internal conflict.
Colds
Frequent colds, which are accompanied by cough, runny nose, and other manifestations that make breathing difficult, indicate that your child is also prevented from breathing emotionally. This can be harsh criticism, excessive custody, excessive demands, etc.
According to psychosomatics, the disease encloses the child in a framework, envelops him in a dense cocoon, which does not allow him to live fully, because of which the baby is constantly forced to look around and read the reaction of his parents to this or that act. He is worried about whether he had deceived expectations, whether he would have upset and caused his behavior to be driven by a wave of regular reproaches.
Angina
With angina, loss of voice occurs. About the psychosomatics of the disease, Louise Hay says that she develops against a backdrop of understatement. Moreover, the child really wants to say something, but hesitates. This happens because of guilt or shame when parents tell their children that their actions are not worthy.
Sometimes the cause is a conflict situation in which the baby feels guilty. Or he wants to talk with his mother, but since she is constantly busy, she is afraid to disturb her.
Psychosomatic treatment
The psychosomatics of diseases in children is a complex field of medicine, and it is far from always possible to quickly establish a connection between mental state and physical health. Often, even the parents themselves do not realize that it was their behavior that caused the development of a disease. Meanwhile, it continues to progress. As a result, the doctor deals with the disease when it is already severely neglected, as well as psychological trauma. Thus, the treatment becomes complex and lengthy.
In European countries, it is customary to refer children with recurring diseases, as well as chronic diseases, which are constantly exacerbating, to a psychologist. Thanks to this approach, it is possible in time to identify an emerging problem and eradicate it. However, this practice did not take root in us, and all hope is only on the attention of parents. However, to suspect the problem of psychosomatics is not enough. It is important to establish a connection between physical condition and mental health. Only then can you work with it.
Such diseases require complex treatment, in which both parents and a pediatrician, and, of course, a psychologist will take part. The attending physician develops a conservative method of therapy, the psychologist pays attention to the problem, and the parents unquestioningly follow all the recommendations and try to create the most warm comfortable atmosphere in their home.
If the adaptation of the baby is too protracted, then it is advisable for someone from the family to sit at home with him for a while. Staying in kindergarten does not cancel this - the baby can attend it, but only less often than usual, or spend part-time there. Now it is important to pay special attention to the behavior of the child and to withdraw from the group immediately, as soon as he begins to act up or cry. So you instill confidence in him that he is loved, you need him and you will always be there when you need it. Thanks to such care, children very quickly overcome the current situation.
Building trust does not happen in one day. Parents should focus on this process. Allow the child to speak, he should not be afraid and not be shy about sharing his experiences. Show him that you are on his side, no matter what he does. Even when the baby is wrong, it is only necessary to conduct a conversation in a friendly manner, without the slightest hint of criticism.
And if the cause of the disease was really hiding in the plane of psychosomatics, then such an approach will certainly give positive results. The child will recover. Sometimes even diseases such as bronchial asthma pass without a trace.
Prevention
When studying the psychosomatics of childhood diseases, it is important to understand that a healthy child is able to become successful, while a weakened psyche will prevent this, and your baby risks getting a lot of different diseases. Such a child already in kindergarten becomes irritable, his sleep is disturbed, and he does not believe in his own strength. He inherits this model of behavior from suspicious parents.
Requirements and loads should be adequate. Do not expect from your child only high marks, otherwise low scores will become a real stress for him. Try to give him more freedom and do not occupy his every free minute with your ideas. Let him try to find entertainment for himself. The same situation is with developing circles - they should not follow each other.
In the modern rhythm of life, it is necessary to devote a certain amount of time to your child every day. But try to be fully present. It is better to devote one hour, but at the same time devote all his attention to his interests, than to tear between a child, cooking, cleaning and work throughout the day.
A book on the psychosomatic illnesses of Liz Hay says that parents should not abuse custody and prohibitions. Let your children learn from their mistakes. They must have their own space in which they can make independent decisions and be absolute masters of the situation.
And never make scandals with a child. Complex relationships in the family should be adjusted without his participation, outside of his presence. Do not swear, do not arrange scenes, do not insult each other while your baby is nearby. And never with him speak ill of people who are especially valuable to him.
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